How Much Contact Does Your T Allow?

[Eagle3]

I can email, and do so frequently, but I know he won't respond unless I'm in crisis. He reads everything I send, though. We only text for missed appt's or scheduling. I CAN call him and the first 15 minutes of the call are free, but I hate talking on phones so much I never call.

 

[Queen Boudica]

, I believe it's best to look to a trusted friend for help when in crices mode anyways

No, that is taking advantage of friendship. Friends are not for psychological crisis management. That could damage them. My sister would be screaming on phone to me in her crisis. Damaged me no end.

 

[AngelBby]

My therapist has told me multiple times that I could call or text her if I ever need anything. She has used text to remind me of sessions or cancelations. Also if I'm nervous about talking about something I'll text her about it as a sort of heads up for next session. I don't always expect her to reply ,as I'm not her only patient, but I know she has seen it. There is a crisis center that I could call if I was ever in one.

 

[Ronin]

I've used texting for scheduling, calling rarely because calls to me are a rather personal zone I don't want therapists in, and emails other than specifically online therapists, we've exchanged rarely.

I'm good communicating over email, therapists I was with were rather busy or not using that modality in their practice very much.

As to crises, my therapists & me had a wildly differing idea what 'crisis' is, or how to behave in it. The last people I'm likely to hit up in a crisis are authorities of any kind, unless I'm working with them. And when in crisis, I don't need soothing / comfort of the sympathy kind, I need someone to restart my ability to think & trust my thoughts & act on them.

 

[Rumors]

I have had some stuff going on lately that was significantly serious. My therapist called to check on me, texted, and encouraged me to call if I needed to. I don't. I just wait until the next appointment, but I thought that was very cool. I really haven't had anyone (ever) do that. I struggle with trust/abandonment issues as I am sure many of us do, so having someone go the extra minute to check in kind of made me feel like he was "all in" so to speak. It is comforting to know you aren't alone, there aren't strings attached, and that something isn't expected in return.