Hey Dimples
Every relationship is different so It's kind of hard to say. I've been married for more than 40 years. My wife is a gem. We've been through a great deal together. Like any couple that's lucky enough to weather the trials and tribulations of life. I guess the optimal word is together. She never nagged me, pushed me or tried to make me do anything. She knows that I know when I need to do something. She has suggested things from time to time but that's it. She's always been supportive in anything that I've ever done. So, as you may tell I can't really say what someone should or shouldn't say to motivate someone to do what they need to.
I might add that I'm pretty disciplined and have always been motivated at what ever I did. Even when my PTSD was at it's worse I knew that I needed to do something. It was a terrible time for us both but she was always there to support me. She's probably the reason that I'm still around. I'm very lucky, and that's an important word also. You don't and can never know what someone will be like in 5 or 10 or more years from when you first start out in life together. That's where the luck comes in, you need some in this life.
All I can really say is don't work too hard at trying to understand what he's going though, thankfully you can't really. Just the fact that you want to makes you empathetic to his problem. It just takes time and a lot of it. It's not easy but it can get better. Hope it does for you both.
JarHed
Every relationship is different so It's kind of hard to say. I've been married for more than 40 years. My wife is a gem. We've been through a great deal together. Like any couple that's lucky enough to weather the trials and tribulations of life. I guess the optimal word is together. She never nagged me, pushed me or tried to make me do anything. She knows that I know when I need to do something. She has suggested things from time to time but that's it. She's always been supportive in anything that I've ever done. So, as you may tell I can't really say what someone should or shouldn't say to motivate someone to do what they need to.
I might add that I'm pretty disciplined and have always been motivated at what ever I did. Even when my PTSD was at it's worse I knew that I needed to do something. It was a terrible time for us both but she was always there to support me. She's probably the reason that I'm still around. I'm very lucky, and that's an important word also. You don't and can never know what someone will be like in 5 or 10 or more years from when you first start out in life together. That's where the luck comes in, you need some in this life.
All I can really say is don't work too hard at trying to understand what he's going though, thankfully you can't really. Just the fact that you want to makes you empathetic to his problem. It just takes time and a lot of it. It's not easy but it can get better. Hope it does for you both.
JarHed
