General How to help him find the beauty in humanity again?

[LuckiLee]

Hi guys! First off I want to say I'm so glad all of you are here. When my guys stress is "flaring up" I find myself coming here several times a day for ideas, guidance, perspective, solutions, in other words.... Support. :)

It's been a crap week with all the highs and lows and everything in between. So, what brings me here now is I wonder if I can help J find the beauty in humanity again. I know. People suck. Lol. We take nature walks, bike, fish, explore our parks and beaches, take day trips. He see's the beauty in nature and family. But will he see the beauty in man again? Idk. Any thoughts??

My first step is Easter Mass.

 

[Freedomfighter]

Boy, I know what you are talking about. I do see the beauty in humans, a view, the view that are mistreated, the view who really do fight for a cause. I am so impressed by such real people. Those kind of people I find truly beautiful.

But nature is my love, always will be.

 

[LuckiLee]

Boy, I know what you are talking about. I do see the beauty in humans, a view, the view that are...

Thanks for the quick reply! I knew someone was here.
He sees the beauty in the defenders of the mistreated. Righteous people. He was in MULTIPLE "conflicts" through his military career and for him to see what is going on now (which we try to avoid!) breaks his already broken heart. It makes him feel that all he and his team went through ( not all of them came home, broken families, suicides, addiction) was in vain. Served no purpose. Yet he couldn't be more proud! And would do it again if only to save his brothers. ( and THE 9 yo boy )
I'm babbling now. Thanks for listening. ✌

 

[Sweetpea76]

That's a tough one.

They have seen the absolute worst in humanity. I don't think you can ever forget that. We can't even fathom what they've seen. Sure, they tell us stories and we can think we "get" it, but we never really get it.

I've heard stories from my vet that made me nauseous. He has told me they aren't the worst stories he has. I couldn't image what it'd be like to see/smell/touch it, all while somebody is trying to kill me.

 

[holdenmonty]

Reading this really hit me in a special way. I always enjoyed nature growing up but even more so now. I remember growing up I always thought fishing or hunting was boring because the majority of the time you are just sitting there in nature waiting for something to happen. Now I can just sit out on the front porch and just be content. My two boys think it's boring but it's amazing how your perspective changes when you have seen war that some of the most simple things can bring so much joy.

 

[Never_falter2]

(((Hug)))

 

[LuckiLee]

Thanks @Never_falter. Hugs to you too!!

 

[dulcia]

My vet jumped off the hope for humanity train years ago (combat deployments, so understandable). It's super hard for me because I strongly believe in hope and happiness and all that froo froo sh*t. It is what it is. Best thing for him to connect back with any "good" is through animals. Animals have never done him wrong, people have. That's a sort of connection that seems to resonate with mine.

 

[Snowflakes]

Sorry I'm late, it's been a bad month or so for me with my sufferer but I check in periodically. To answer your wondering about your vets....time can heal, a very long time I might add. True, we never forget but time and positive life events during that time can heal, even soften us.

I'm an old man, my war was 49 years ago when I was drafted into the VietNam war. I see myself in many of your stories. I'm sad for the caring people I walked away from in my much younger days. PTSD didn't even exist and the citizens of our Country didn't care for us back then. I never talk about what I went through....except to my therapists and that took decades. Sometimes I wonder how I made it.

I don't know if this helps you except to say that time, caring people, and a couple of great therapists at the VA brought me back. I still remember but I'm a quieter and kinder person today.

Hang in there. There is always hope. Hugs to all of you.

 

[LuckiLee]

Thank you so much for your reply Snowflakes, it's greatly appreciated!!

I was born in 68, alot of my friends fathers, uncles , and cousins served in your war. And some didn't come home. So glad you did!!

I NEVER understood the hatred directed at our troops at that time. It makes NO sense to me. They should have been outraged at our government not the people DRAFTED into a war we didn't want to fight. I am so sorry you all were treated so poorly! I respect and honor all of you.

Time is helping my veteran little by little. And it helps that the weather is better so he can fish again. It's better than therapy!

Thanks again for your reply and for your SERVICE!!

I hope things have calmed down a little bit for you at home!! XO

 

[Never_falter2]

Thanks for sharing @Snowflakes.

 

[Go Hungry]

Take him to a dog park. He likes nature, gets to play with dogs, and see people at their best. Cause people act their best around the puppers. <3