Roseinpain
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Hi, I am in deep pain to an extent that I have self killing thoughts and I get nightmares.
15 Nov 2021 is the date I will never forget in my life . This is the day when I discovered my husband addiction to strip club, escorts, prostitution and drugs. Married for almost 17 years now I always thought that we had a strong marriage.
I started feeling something off from April 2021 where my husband used to have mood swings , always coming home late from work , going to office work yours during Covid 19.
finally on 15 Nov 2021. He confessed that he is going yo strip club 3-4 times a week and sleeping with prostitutes. He said first time he went , he thought he will grab a drink and sit there for 1 hour and heave but it ended up in hiring an escort and having sex. He said he couldn’t handle what he did but still went back next day to hire same escort and ended up using drugs and from there the cycle continued.
my husband also said that he tried stopping this cycle but he couldn’t and he ended up spending 220,000$ in 6 months.
i am completely devastated. I felt so foolish that u never bother to even check bank accounts as I trusted him so much.
he has also accepted that he has porn addiction since 2012 to an extent that he was watching porn every day first thing in the morning.
in 2012 he suggested we should combine our super in to self manage super and he wants to invest in shares himself. He is trying hard to learn share marked from last 22 years with no success and has even lost 100,000$ in shares before we met when he was around 25 years old.
anyways I was shocked yo find that he has wiped off all our superannuation of last 16 years by investing in wrong shares that he never updated me.
I am completely lost as I always thought he is a honest guy. He is looking after my elderly mother very well.
Dr has diagnosed him with major depressive disorder, PTSD, OCD, maniac state (for his 6 months of sex addiction, drug addiction, reckless behaviour) where he acted completely opposite to his usual behaviour.
his older brother has schizophrenia and older duster has severe depression.
he also confessed that from last 10 years he started feeling very stressed for his work and developed the habit of watching porn every day.
he is on antidepressants, doing recovery work, quit drugs but still has mood swings here and there.
i am still lost and depressed.
sorry for writing such a long message. Please help
Regards
Rose
15 Nov 2021 is the date I will never forget in my life . This is the day when I discovered my husband addiction to strip club, escorts, prostitution and drugs. Married for almost 17 years now I always thought that we had a strong marriage.
I started feeling something off from April 2021 where my husband used to have mood swings , always coming home late from work , going to office work yours during Covid 19.
finally on 15 Nov 2021. He confessed that he is going yo strip club 3-4 times a week and sleeping with prostitutes. He said first time he went , he thought he will grab a drink and sit there for 1 hour and heave but it ended up in hiring an escort and having sex. He said he couldn’t handle what he did but still went back next day to hire same escort and ended up using drugs and from there the cycle continued.
my husband also said that he tried stopping this cycle but he couldn’t and he ended up spending 220,000$ in 6 months.
i am completely devastated. I felt so foolish that u never bother to even check bank accounts as I trusted him so much.
he has also accepted that he has porn addiction since 2012 to an extent that he was watching porn every day first thing in the morning.
in 2012 he suggested we should combine our super in to self manage super and he wants to invest in shares himself. He is trying hard to learn share marked from last 22 years with no success and has even lost 100,000$ in shares before we met when he was around 25 years old.
anyways I was shocked yo find that he has wiped off all our superannuation of last 16 years by investing in wrong shares that he never updated me.
I am completely lost as I always thought he is a honest guy. He is looking after my elderly mother very well.
Dr has diagnosed him with major depressive disorder, PTSD, OCD, maniac state (for his 6 months of sex addiction, drug addiction, reckless behaviour) where he acted completely opposite to his usual behaviour.
his older brother has schizophrenia and older duster has severe depression.
he also confessed that from last 10 years he started feeling very stressed for his work and developed the habit of watching porn every day.
he is on antidepressants, doing recovery work, quit drugs but still has mood swings here and there.
i am still lost and depressed.
sorry for writing such a long message. Please help
Regards
Rose
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