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[reel]

My wife has PTSD and it is something after 20 years of marriage we realized she had. We are currently in counseling, however I just need people to talk to about it from a supporters view. I didn't know what forum I should be in. Any help would be appreciated!

 

[kahlan]

Welcome to the forum :) there a lot of supportive people here and its a great place to vent when things get a little rough!

 

[reel]

Thanks so much. Just trying to remain positive while this plays out. She was assault twice when she was 8 years old by a friend of the family. Also as she grew into a teen there were times she allowed or was assaulted by young men her age or older. She walled all that up and finally through counseling deconstructing these walls, which has made her into another person. I am having to come to terms with basically a different spouse for the most part. I am a person that takes my wedding vows very seriously and my faith. I am in it for the long haul, however it is nice to know how to not step in the way of her recovery.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Hello Reel and Welcome to the PTSD forum,

You have a great start so far by posting an introduction. The supporters section, filled with helpful partners and spouses like yourself is here: https://www.myptsd.com/forums/#supporters.37. You just pick a appropriate forum/section for the topic you wish to talk about and post there.

Hope that helps. Best wishes,

Ayesha

 

[reel]

Thanks so much for your help!

 

[LisawithPTSD]

I have PTSD and, though my experiences/reactions may be different than your wife's, I find that not asking "what caused that Flashback this time" is helpful. Just knowing that I can have an episode without critique is important. Also, it is very common, I believe, for a victim to feel they have allowed themselves to be assaulted. After my assault I sought out the company of men in order to get power back and allowed some near me that I didn't want because I went submissive.

 

[LisawithPTSD]

I went to this facility and it helpd: traumatherapy.us/ and I found this book helped my family and friends (and myself) understand things: The PTSD Sourcebook by Glenn R. Schiraldi

 

[reel]

THanks I just ordered the book.

 

[intothelight]

Hi Reel,

Welcome to MyPTSD Forum!

I have PTSD and am married, and this disorder has put our relationship through the wringer. Couples counseling is helpful, but it is critical that your wife get treatment and learn to manage this disorder. I had to become healthy in order to have a healthy relationship.

I hope you find the information and support here helpful.

Debbie

 

[reel]

Yes, thanks so much Debbie. She is going to counseling regularly, and we had a very good discussion last night about me being on this site and the fact I just ordered the book that as recommended. She seemed to be relieved that I was looking into finding out all I could about the PTSD.

Jeff