I Don't Feel Up To Trying Again Right Now

[jmni]

I have had very little success with therapy. I assume everyone here is pro-therapy. I myself encourage people to seek out therapy. I believe there is benefit to being able to open up to another professional who will give you support and guidance so that you are not alone in your problems. But every time I have tried therapy, it hasn't really done me no good at all. I've seen five therapists in my life.

Some of them, the ones who were paid by my father, were very willing to ignore the 5 ton pink elephant in the room. The one who worked for the school I went to violated the hippa laws and shared my information with her coworkers and friends. Sometimes they just give me weird looks as though my face was painted purple. My last therapist tried, but at one point she revealed that she might be a back-stabber and I could not go any further with her.

But I have to say that I usually just don't get anything from it. In the past mental blocks and shame have kept me from fully communicating. But, in most cases it was the therapists who were at fault. And now I dont feel like I can trust them anymore.
Why do I keep trying?

 

[mrsps]

Im sorry to hear of the unpleasant experience's you have had with the therapists you have seen, sounds like they all have been unprofessional. These bad ones give all the good ones a bad name. Please keep trying you are worth it! There is the right therapist out there for you, hang in there. :)

 

[Cassey]

Don't give up, as mrsps has said there are good ones out there. When you find it there advice and help works wonders x

 

[Friday]

I'm ADHD, and a military brat. Which meant moving every 6mo-2years. Then I joined the military. Then after I was discharged Iv almost unilaterally chosen jobs that keep me on the move.

The point of
<<< Massive Gypsy
Is that I've gotten finding an ADHD therapist down to a freaking science.
- First I shuffle through a list of a couple hundred locals and whittle it down to 10 or so based on bios.
- Then I call each of those 10, and based off of phone screening whittle the list down to my favorite 3-4.
- Then I go meet with all 3 or 4 for the free initial appointment.
- Then I pick my favorite (there is always a clear favorite after I've met them in person).
- Occasionally after a few weeks, I realize my initial favorite sucks, and I fire them and go with a runner up. (This has happened twice in 20 years).

Most of these counselors have been damn good, and two have been flat out amazing. I still touch base with the amazing 2 from time to time, although aim grateful for the good ones.

But we're still looking at a ratio here of 100s : 10 : 4 : 1.

So you are thinking of giving up after 5... And I just think to myself... Whoa. I wouldn't even be done shopping around after meeting with 5.

I started shopping when I was 14. Because I had an idiot of a school counselor, and my mom said if I could find one I liked better, and could pay for it, go ahead. Oh. Okay. Took me 6 months,because I didn't have a system down, yet. Took me a couple of years to nail that system down. And, yah. You will meet dozens of idiots. But you'll also meet pure gold.

 

[ghotiff]

It was a lot of effort to find my current T, more than I expected and it was very frustrating to say the least. The pre appointment phone call was really important part of the process for me.

 

[KwanYingirl]

Keep looking you will find a match. If they specialize in trauma all the better. School psychology is dangerous because their reports go in your general file which is fodder for anyone who wants to nose around.

 

[scout86]

I'd guess you keep trying because you know you're not going to miraculously get better all by yourself.

I used a system somewhat like @FridayJones , except that I live in a rural area and there weren't as many choices. 2, in fact. One was someone I'd met in MY professional capacity and I took an instant dislike to her. (Probably says more about me than her.) The other was my current T. He had a quirky website that suggested a sense of humor and he mentioned therapy dogs. How bad could a dog lover be? In fact, he's great.

But, there have been a few times when I've really wondered whether or not I'd made a mistake. There are still days that I wonder and probably will be in the future. I have to ask myself, though, how much of that is him and how much is me? Seriously, I have to ask that, because a "problem" could be either one, or it could be something else. So far, I've decided it's usually not him. LOL But, nothing is ever going to go 100% smoothly, with no glitches. Sometimes working out the glitches is the most educational part of the experience!