General I Finally Came Clean About What's Going On

[Stacey85]

It probably wasn't exactly the right way to do it, but I don't regret it. My husband has PTSD, but I too (as well as our kids) are suffering right along with him, just in different ways. He has gotten so much worse, even as far as violent, and mentally self destructive. It's been such a scary right, and he just keeps being turned away for help. I can't even count anymore how many times he's gone to ABH (adult behavioral health) on post.

Anyway, I finally posted something on my facebook. I didn't at all go into detail on anything out of respect for my husband, but I did let it out that we are dealing with it. To my surprise, I started getting personal messages from other Army wives who have, and are going through it. Very close to the same issues we are regarding PTSD. I FINALLY don't feel so alone.

Not saying this forum doesn't help, it was definitely a very good step for me, but knowing that people I know in real life really really really understand EXACTLY how I feel, and what I am going through as a supporter is amazing.

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

Pleased to hear you are getting support by going public.

Take care.

 

[ISupportHer]

Glad you are getting some responses back. I do think it is a fine line as far as disclosure. I have always taken the path that it is not my secret to tell. Yet we, as supporters, need support too.

I am not second guessing anyone who feels they need to disclose or explain, just saying it can be a two edged sword with issues like trust with your sufferer.

I wish nothing but the best for you, of course.

ISH

 

[Stacey85]

I hadn't said anything in detail at all. Not what he had gone through, or what he's going through as a result, just that we were going through it. Up until that point I felt like I was so isolated. We're hundreds of miles away from family, and it's been a scary thing dealing with this all alone, just me and the kids. I am a supporter, but I am suffering MANY ways along with my husband because of the things it does to him.

I haven't slept much since he's been home from deployment, I am so stressed out I don't even know who I am anymore. Yes, I am a supporter, but I am suffering so much due to all of the effects it has on me and my kids. I don't regret coming out a bit. My husband is glad I did for me, and of course I read to him what I put. It was very respectful in regards to him. Thank you for your concern though.