I Find It Difficult To Talk To My T About My Past Abuse And Current Lesbian Sex Life

[sarahts]

Hi ,

Basicly , I am working on my past rape / abuse with my T , When she askes me about it i find it so hard to say the words of the abuse that occoured. I have opend up to her explaining how i have trouble being intimate with my girlfriend , she asked me 'in what sence/way' (what particular areas) . . . but i feel stupid / embarrased because she is straight , so surley it would gross her out ? ? ? . . . . . i dont know what ''words'' to use for explaining what i find hard and sexual body parts im not sure what to say.......... Any ideas ? Its really playing on my mind! Also for some reason i find myself attracted to my T , This feels really strange to me as i have a gf.

Thanks everyone

 

[Redtail]

Sarahts,

I can give you a different point of view from a different perspective. I have taken reports from same sex victims (I am a police officer) who have difficulty telling me how and what had happened. What I also tried to do it let them use the own "words" and let them get comfortable to talk about it. It really does not matter if it is same sex or not. Most adults, and teens are aware of the different parts and what acts are done. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed because she it straight, she is or should be trained to accept what you have to say. It probably ill not be this first time she has heard it.

I am not sure if it helps but I wanted to give you some feedback.

 

[sarahts]

Thank you for your feedback :) it was helpfull to me :) sarah

 

[Artista]

It is difficult to open up to a T, especially when you may just be establishing your way to communicate with her. As stated above... she has heard it all. If it helps you to write it down and give it to her, you could, but some feel odd about that as well. (i do, yet it has worked for others) I noticed my T sometimes would finish my words when it became difficult for me to name parts and such when detailing something horrendous.

As far as your attraction, just be careful. Therapists are to remain objective and not personal, yet the way they are let into our deepest concerns, it is natural to feel a pull to them. Just be aware of it. It may hinder your work if you take it seriously. Sometimes it is just so nice to have someone really listen... we take it to heart differently than we mean to.

 

[Tinyflame]

I would think it's important to be honest, and to try to get some resolution. I think that if a therapist is competent and genuine they would be able to facilitate the things that are difficult to say or do. But you would have to trust them enough to follow their lead, and you have to put in the work 24/7, even if it you can't see any potential that some traumas (or factors about yourself) can be overcome.