Idk What I Have To Live For

[Deleted member 33287]

Saw my suffer has a new boyfriend while I am scared to get close with a female because intimacey is when things went down hill with us. Nothing is going right and I have no idea why I am even living right now. My life isn't much value to anyone because no one stuck up for me or had my back with my friend

 

[Gs172003]

Saw my suffer has a new boyfriend while I am scared to get close with a female because intimacey is...

I'm sorry but your post isn't very clear. Can you tell me what's going on? And of course you have value!

 

[Kailani]

You are valued!!! I also am having trouble with understanding the post. Can you expand on that? Normal to fear a time when things blew up on you! Sometimes it doesn't happen again. Lots of people are looking for friends now, classes, groups.... Unfortunately we can't change the past but maybe the future. So sorry you felt that way!!!!!!

 

[Deleted member 33287]

IN February my friend told me she was raped and has PTSD. After she told me things got weird and she said and did things that made me think that she thinks I am going to hurt her. What I got from all this is anxiety and I usually have an anxiety attack once a week about her. Saw her past weekend and her and other people treat me like they are protecting Nicole from OJ. I want the truth so I can have my life back. Just want to hear the words that I would never hurt her so I can get rid of this anxiety. I want my life back but wont ever get it back till I get the truth and know that she knows I would never physically harm her

 

[Kailani]

Awww poor lady!!!!! She might be having a PTSD reaction where everyone makes her nervous and she feels she can't trust anyone. It might take a month or more for her to settle depending on everything. I would tell her that or text it and tell her you support her and are there for her if she needs you or when she is ready. I wouldn't take it personally!!! The person that raped her may have some similar attributes as you and it may make her really uncomfortable and on edge. The nature of PTSD. So sorry!!!!

 

[Nessa7]

You have value. What your ex-girlfriend and your friend do are out of your control. You can only control your reactions. Your friend may very likely never give you closure. It is up to you to get your life back and try to control your anxiety.

 

[clouds]

yeah she has the right to be paranoid and it has nothing to do with you!

what I have found in my personal experience is that the guy I was hanging out with tried to hard to not to come across as weird for my comfort, which came out super weird and the opposite until the elephant in the room came out.

maybe she just doesn't know how to cope with it yet and doesn't want to be around men?

hope she and you will be alright sometimes you cant be there for people youd like to be there for, everyone has their own vices and issues and often reject people that give a damn.

everything will be fine eventually trust, maybe you should just talk about it when the time is right. communication is key :) stay groovy

 

[Deleted member 33287]

yeah she has the right to be paranoid and it has nothing to do with you!

what I have found in my perso...

The only man she has a problem being around is the one she told she was raped to and that was me

 

[clouds]

The only man she has a problem being around is the one she told she was raped to and that was me[/Q...

well maybe she doesn't think you're gonna hurt her but maybe she thinks you might like her? and wants to avoid and male female encounters kinda thing. and obviously she values you in that case if you were important enough for her to tell you about it

 

[Deleted member 33287]

Pure frustration want to make that clear

 

[Casey_03]

Nothing is going right and I have no idea why I am even living right now. My life isn't much value to anyone because no one stuck up for me or had my back with my friend

Why is your life not of much value just because others didn't stick up for you? Do you not value your own life? It just seems like this is something you should be examining rather than other people's behavior. In all of your posts, you seem more focused on understanding other people's behavior rather than your own. But I think you're better off trying to figure out why these people's actions has such a profound effect on the value YOU put on your own life. Are these all people you've been close to your whole life? If not, I don't think you should attach so much significance to their actions.