If You Could Change One Thing....

[Innordinate]

So, if you could go back and change just one thing.....just one. What would it be?

Anything goes. This is for both sufferers and supporters.

I, would go back and change how I acted towards my step-mother when I first moved in with her and my dad.

 

[Innordinate]

Should say... should be something somewhat realistic.. that you're in control of. You can't change that you're trauma happened because, most likely, it wasn't in your control.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I would change the way I treated my brothers and sisters. I resented having to take care of them when we were growing up. I hated being punished for the things they did. But that happened to all of us so I guess that does not count. I would love my husband more and my kids would not have been exposed to alcoholism and emotional and verbal abuse from my husband. Boy this is turning into a tear jerker.:(

 

[Meadowsweet]

I would go back and tell someone, report it to the police and make it clear that I was the victim of someone elses crime.

 

[Red Feather]

I'm crying just thinking about it. I mean really how much control do we have in the first place. I can not change how I reacted to my ex when he kicked me out, but it was because I didn't react that my life turned out so wrong.

If I could change it I would have never married him and would have stayed in New York and finished my bachelors degree in filmmaking.

 

[goingonhope]

When I'm in my right frame of mind, I'd go back and change to never having started smoking when I was 21. Even though, I had always absolutely detested smoke and cigg's prior to starting.

When in a hopeless and dark thinking, feeling and self-loathing state, I'd go back and change, my mind on that very moment in time while in the ambulance, in which I chose prayer and family over that very-strong-drift-away-pulling of me.

 

[Loloma]

I would of gone with the one I loved, instead of letting fear control my decision making. This moment in time changed the course of my life.

This is the biggest regret of my life, I threw away my chance at happiness. I loved him till the day he died.

 

[cherryblossom]

Meadowsweet says exactly my thoughts. If I could go back, I would immediately tell my family and friends and report him to the Police. And then seek out a trauma therapist. Maybe that would have prevented PTSD.

 

[Let It Be]

So much of my life centers around the fact that after my mother kicked me out of the house, I returned. I didn't stay with the very loving and supportive family that had taken me in. I even learned later that plans were in the works to set me up in an apartment. Instead I went back to live with someone, whom I later learned in therapy, had wished I had never been born.

I always think about what direction my life would have taken if I hadn't returned. I eventually got out of the house for good, only to end up with what I knew, someone who was as abusive as my parents.

 

[a3a2]

I'd have run away sooner.

 

[a3a2]

I'd also have gotten therapy sooner.

 

[Innordinate]

I would change the way I treated my brothers and sisters. I resented having to take care of them when we were growing up. I hated being punished for the things they did. But that happened to all of us so I guess that does not count. I would love my husband more and my kids would not have been exposed to alcoholism and emotional and verbal abuse from my husband. Boy this is turning into a tear jerker.:(

sorry giz.