In Therapy I Learned That

[DharmaGirl]

Thoughts are not facts.

I learned that too. That is a big one!
I learned that my therapist is just a guy that has overwhelming things happen too, and that he deserves compassion and caring too.

 

[Britt.f7]

I've learned that I have distorted thinking about myself and that I am not as compassionate with myself as I am with others. I'm learning how to change that behavior. Slower then I would hope.

 

[Deleted member 19804]

@Britt.f7 I know how you feel. It's a frustratingly slow process. But you are making progress. I believe that one day we will all get there and we'll be truly happy. As long as we don't give up.

 

[The Albatross]

• In therapy I learned how to slow down my thoughts.
• In therapy I learned how to distinguish facts from feelings.
• In therapy I learned how to use "act or accept".
• I therapy I learned that the first impression is not necessary the truest or most valid one
• In therapy I learned how to pause (when I can achieve it the power of the pause is most often more effective than my default reaction) before I act/react.
• In therapy I learned how to take responsibility from myself and my own maturation/character development.
• In therapy I learned the difficulty I had with communicating my needs/wants/desires.
• In therapy I learned how to recognize the subtle precursors that led up to big events/melt downs.
• In therapy I learned how to begin actualizing my own life outside of familial/spousal roles that were previously assigned to me.
• In therapy I learned that the unfamiliar was uncomfortable but it was more often "better for me" than familiar patterns.
• In therapy I learned how to endeavor to "captain my own ship".

 

[DharmaGirl]

I learned to talk things through. Often we assume we know what someone else is talking about. When we clarify, things can be different.
I can be wrong, lol.