Incest/triangulation

[single_guy]

I'm a norm/singleton who left a relationship in January with a women severly emersed in a trauma reanactment. Shes from a line of incest. Her mom remaried in 1994 , and she suddenly follows suite and is married by 1995. She built her house from the ground up for the sole purpose of the reenactment. After months of studying this there is little doubt shes complex ptsd /did .

I found out she had been triangulating with my brother since the start. Before me it was her x husbands sister. The consequences from all of this have led to catastrophe for both myself and her x husb.

.She lives close by , and my brother moved into my townhome uninvited while i was in afghanistan. for 3 years I could only discribe our relationship as uncomfortable silence..I suspect he new.

Is she unable to communicate with "love" objects (like I was), as she can other people? does the trauma association immediatly restrict her memory?

I can tell you after almost 3.5 years, if I knocked on her door I have no idea who would answer. Her attachment personality is the one I spent the most time with , but she is long gone since the day we hit that spot on her timeline where "it" happend.. after that she spiraled into boarderline and eventually numb/mute...

What has bewildred me is how she was able to get my brother and the x husbands sister to stay silent for so long. its been catastrophic for me (financially) and my family

 

[anthony]

I think it would be more apt to simply not try and analyse something that neither of us could possibly do so. She needs professional local help and treatment from the sounds of it.

I am more glad to hear that you are away from such a toxic relationship. Honestly, I would be more focused on moving on with your life and remembering her for being a part of your life... but my focus would be your own future.