EloiseLandau
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"V" as in there are 3 of us, 1 person is the pivot and the other two associate more with the pivot.
(And then people have visions of 3-somes and things. I think we're possibly the more boring 3-some on earth. I don't sleep with her, nor she with me, and he and I spend more time talking than anything else, to the point months will pass until we realize we haven't been intimate.)
But sometimes it pays to take a step back.
Especially when I'm the one with PTSD and the other part of the V, who I will call Girl, is a loose cannon of self-centered actions and emotions. She has spent the last handful of years not being bothered enough to stop triggering me when it was inconvenient; she would sooner impress her friends with how nice she is, while being nasty and mean behind closed doors. So, now she is in therapy for her gross immaturity, and finally getting a handle on herself. Only it's not happening fast enough to help me, so I am taking a step back from them until she matures more.
It could be a while.
But I don't see why I should have to be abused by Girl, and I refuse to be (anymore). I don't buy her "I'm so sorry!" because those are empty words. And when I actually lost it and shrieked at her some months back, I think that's the first penalty she's had to suffer from someone. Her husband kept standing up for her, saying she was nice, and sweet, and cared about me. I finally had to say, "people say 'I love you' all the time and then pop them with a black eye."
So, yes, distance is good for now.
(And then people have visions of 3-somes and things. I think we're possibly the more boring 3-some on earth. I don't sleep with her, nor she with me, and he and I spend more time talking than anything else, to the point months will pass until we realize we haven't been intimate.)
But sometimes it pays to take a step back.
Especially when I'm the one with PTSD and the other part of the V, who I will call Girl, is a loose cannon of self-centered actions and emotions. She has spent the last handful of years not being bothered enough to stop triggering me when it was inconvenient; she would sooner impress her friends with how nice she is, while being nasty and mean behind closed doors. So, now she is in therapy for her gross immaturity, and finally getting a handle on herself. Only it's not happening fast enough to help me, so I am taking a step back from them until she matures more.
It could be a while.
But I don't see why I should have to be abused by Girl, and I refuse to be (anymore). I don't buy her "I'm so sorry!" because those are empty words. And when I actually lost it and shrieked at her some months back, I think that's the first penalty she's had to suffer from someone. Her husband kept standing up for her, saying she was nice, and sweet, and cared about me. I finally had to say, "people say 'I love you' all the time and then pop them with a black eye."
So, yes, distance is good for now.
