Just Saw A Picture Of Abuser On Social Media.

[Lee2001]

So I have not seen this person who sexually abused me for like 15 years. Nothing, no photos, no contact, nothing. Then tonight out of blue there he is, photo and all on social media. Talk about awful, I am just starting into the hard stuff in therapy and this man being the worst of it! Literally this week will be starting to share all about this specific abuse encounter. Talk about triggering and bad luck. Just on here venting and wanting to cry. I'm fine it's just all so exhausting. This forum is such a place of support and glad to have it.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Thats hard, Im sorry. I understand its hard. The moment i saw my mom's obit, it had her picture, I about flipped and I was at work. I jumped back and held my breath and just closed it.

Its rough, im sorry! :hug:

 

[Joan]

So sorry that happened. Hope that you have made it so that you will not see again. What a shock and unsettling thing. Take sweet care of yourself. I hope that you share this with your T before you delve in this week. May need some time to settle first.

 

[Gs172003]

I'm sorry :(

 

[Sideways]

Social media is the antithesis of mental stability. JMO.

The only pics that make it onto social media are the ones where the person either looks funny, or looks like they're having fun. That was the last straw between me and Facebook. Too many crossovers and one more "Do you want to be friends with ...?" AAAARGH!

The last thing my denial-happy brain needs is pics of any abuser being funny or having fun. The version of them I need to remember is the version that screwed me over bigtime.

So I'm sorry this happened. There's nothing worse than straight outta the blue, "look how happy this **** is right now". Trauma wasn't fair, but social media rubbing it in like that is hell. It really is.

 

[Gs172003]

Block him. Now.

If made the mistake of going to my ex's on purpose the other day thinking it would help something.

Hahahahahaha

No.

Bad. Bad. Bad. Idea.

 

[Lee2001]

Thanks you all! Yeah I am unfriending the one person I was friends with who knew him... that's how I saw it! Yes I don't need to see this person as they are now... not healthy. So sorry lodtforgottensoul! Geeze that is just rough! It's haunting and hurtful:(

 

[Freedomfighter]

So I have not seen this person who sexually abused me for like 15 years. Nothing, no photos, no contact...

That is a huge trigger, know that one well. Friends of my abuser left his picture intentionally at the places where he used to stalk me. Very unnerving and it can scare the daylight out of you.

 

[8888]

That would really trigger me too. Sitting with you, if okay.

 

[Pakadlangitok]

HUGS!! It is so hard to avoid. I went without a computer a whole year toget peace but it did not help because then I was totally isolated.

 

[I_will_recover]

I google my rapist maybe 3 times a year. I can't search him any other way as I don't have social media accounts/presence online except for you all (thank you). I also look to see if his wife has divorced him since I told her her raped me and has been sent acopies of the police report (It was acquaintance rape and I know her and their daughter well).

That search never makes me feel better. He's still looks happy and successful and admired. While my seemingly perfect life is now crippled with self-hatred and doubt and loneliness. But.. I come here for solace. And though sometimes I get triggered reading others' post I am able to turn that around to, "I'm not alone". And neither are you.

Maybe magine that picture with a bullseye if you can. It sometimes helps me.

 

[aut555]

Sorry to hear that. Pictures are triggering. I got rid of photos of soon to be ex , but l just had a nightmare about him. So unloading pics wasn't enough. Omg.