General Just Spent The Night In A And E/psych Team

[ParanoidsWife]

I'm surprised they didn't hospitalize him!! In the US, they would have admitted him at the veteran's hospital for treatment because he was a danger to himself and others. Pretty scary for the person with PTSD but sometimes the best way to get them on the right path for treatment. Do they have veterans hospitals there??

Happily do what again?? Try to chop off his hand, throw you out of the house or just terrify you and your child? Really? Because if he remembers what happened then I doubt he was in a true flashback and that's an even scarier thought!!!

I'm worried for your safety!

Is he still in the military?? If so, get ahold of his chain of command. I hope his psychologist can recommend the right path for him.

Stay strong!! These early days are the toughest!

 

[ParanoidsWife]

Sorry about the comment on the flashback - they do remember sometimes - just depends on the type of flashback.

 

[amethist]

Wife of like me is in the UK, and trying to get crisis help is like asking for moon dust. Support and understanding of PTSD is in very short supply in some area's.

I am thankful for a few things, one being I can manage my husband in crisis times, and I really do not know how wife of manages her husband so well.

Hats of to her she deserves a medal for what she does.

 

[revelry]

wife of,

I just simply admire your strenght, composure, and dedication. I think you need to hear that.

(((hugs)))

 

[ParanoidsWife]

I totally agree with you, Amethist, on all of it! The strength it takes to fight, frustration with the medical system, willingness to face the monster head on, etc. Sisters in battle!

Wifeof, I wish I could come stand with you in person but that's not possible. Just know that I stand with you here.

Maybe someone he loves and trusts can come stay overnight to give you a little breather?

 

[myvetswife]

I know its difficult, but your appointment is important aswell. Can somebody look after him in that time? I believe in Germany they would have kept him in aswell.

You are very strong, I wish I could help you somehow..

 

[wife of]

Quite simply there is no one else he loves or trusts.

He has no memory of events,but has admitted in the past to concious thoughts of doing this.
He's a veteran and we dont have veterans hospitals.

Not new to this been battling it for 15 years unaided and been diagnosed a year ago when things became accute.

In therapy and on meds.....lots of them.

 

[ParanoidsWife]

Wow, Wifeof, that's a pretty hard road to go down unaided and for such a long time. Hopefully, he can get the help he needs and you, too! You know, the thing I realized a while back was that when they go untreated for so long, they don't even know what "normal" is anymore as their symptoms become their new "normal". :( Have you thought about alternative treatments? Like acupuncture and tai chi, etc.? They may work for him along with the meds. There is also something called an Alpha Stim. It worked really well for my husband when he needed it. It looks like he's wearing ear buds or something similar. Just some ideas for you.

 

[Srain]

I can understand your husband's feeling that way Wifeof, I have been there many times. My husband has stood with me and by me as you have and I am in tears understanding what all that it's taken, love being a big part of it. I get that.

You are in my thoughts and prayers, sending healing and peace to your husband. These red zone feelings pass, I know it makes little sense to those watching on but inside it's all about hanging on. Maybe a quick phone session to help to get to your next one will be available to you, some tdoc's are willing to go the extra mile at a time like this.

 

[Froggie]

(((((wife of))))) it's hard to believe that they let him out, it's hard to believe there is not a better service than that for vets who are hurting. I understand you canceling your appointment as you have such great responsabilities that should belong to the army ! You are an amazing person, a very strong person, you have a lot of faith that holds you through all this. I find Rain's suggestion to see if your Tdoc would be willing to do a phone session with you. You can't forget yourself as you definately need immediate support for this situation. You are in my thoughts and prayers, will light a candle for you, your son and your husband

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

I know you would do anything for your hubby wife of and you have done more than most would be able to cope with.

Having to make the home safe, eliminating the obvious things that could be used for self harm or as a weapon, I find really upsetting. My thoughts are with you.

Please make sure you take care of yourself. Hope you both get some decent care soon.

LH x

 

[Tabitha]

I'm not in any position to give advice but just wanted to let you know I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts.