General Just Spent The Night In A And E/psych Team

[wife of]

Ok so tonight he saw his crises team nurse and psychiatrist who were suitably concerned when he said he still felt like chopping his arm off.

So for now he's on an acute secure ward.

I think after hearing me relate the events to his therapist today he got realy spooked big time.

He says he now understands just what he is capable of and he is terrified that he might hurt one of us.

Therapist,crises team and myself all agree that whilst we are very concerned about what he might do to himself there has never been any indication he would hurt one of the rest of us.However I think he's been picking up on my nervous as hell vibe that I probably am not hiding too well right now and its been adding to his distress.He couldnt move a muscle today without me asking the dreaded "are you OK" and each time he left the room I could only hold myself back for a few minutes before checking up on him.

So hopefuly a little space to let the "bouncing off each other" subside and both get some quality sleep,his with knockout meds,mine just from exhaustion,will bring things back to a manageable level.

He asked me again tonight to think about splitting up for my sake so I asked him if he ment his vows 20 yrs ago and if he loved me.The answer to both was yes so I told him that there was no way that we are ever splitting up if I can help it.Kissed him and told him to keep himself safe til tomorrow nights visiting.

I'll keep my appointment tomorrow,I think I need to.

I've a few issues I'd like to get off my chest and clear out of my head.

Thank you all for the positive vibes etc,Its good to know we all are here to provide a safety net of cyber arms to catch each other when we fall down.

Alltogether now...Lean on me,when your not strong,I'll be your friend ,I'll help you carry on,for,it won't be long,til I'm going to need somebody to lean on....

Sue.x

 

[revelry]

Alltogether now...Lean on me,when your not strong,I'll be your friend ,I'll help you carry on,for,it won't be long,til I'm going to need somebody to lean on....

:cry::speechless: Yeah, i guess we're all in this boat together.... anybody got snacks and some extra paddles???? The waters get rough sometimes.

 

[Srain]

(((((((((((((Wifeof))))))))))))))
I'm glad you will be able to keep your appointment, taking some time just for you. You are undeniably strong and you deserve support as well.

peace and rest,
Rain

 

[wife of]

Got a good nights sleep,admitting him was a good call last night.He's had another big fb this morning and is on one to one supervision after attempted hanging.

 

[myvetswife]

what is a fb? sorry for asking, stupid language barrier...

 

[wife of]

Flashback.

 

[Srain]

(((((((((((((Wifeof))))))))))))))

I'm glad you got some rest, you needed it. Hearing this is scary, I'm hoping that they take a strong look at his meds and rethink them at this point as well as are able to bring in some support staff with PTSD training for trauma therapy...is that available? I'm sorry, I'm unfamiliar with your facility.

My last code red, they put me in 4 point restraints...pretty awful and I surely don't recommend. The 24 watch was more humane but not as effective as being able to connect in groups with someone, anyone, that was going through what I was, but still I wanted out. It was best that I stayed until I got stabilized despite what I wanted!

I know this is difficult for you as well as you Son.

peace, prayers,
Rain

 

[wife of]

The psychiatrist last night mentioned getting in touch with the endocrine guys to see if they can swap info so that may help as i think a lot of this is being fuelled by his dodgy hormone production.

 

[revelry]

wife of--

sending you support and strenght, Your a tough gal, we can all see that, but sometimes we all can use a little more...
take as much as you need...
Link Removed

 

[wife of]

Well the therapy session was quite worthless other than making me feel a little reassured that I'm doing all I can.

The service I was referred to is apparently not suitable for me as its more of a service to teach coping skills and how to keep things rationalised and in good order.

According to the therapist I'm already doing all the things he could teach me and I need more of an unburdening service due to the fact that whilst I know how to process all this rubbish and do so daily I'm just getting swamped so I'm back on another waiting list.

But always reassuring to be told I'd give wonder woman a good run for her money and that the whole way of managing is paying off.

Apparently I'm very perseptive and should seriously consider entering a caring profession such as being a prison guard as im assertive and good at reading people........Wonder if they do any training courses with a half hour a month input...honestly what tosh people come out with...I'm the first to wish Joe was well enough for me to work....I found that a little insensitive although I do understand it was designed as a compliment.

Then I get home to find a friend has posted a round robin fun post on a social networking site listing your 8 favourite friends and what they would most likely be doing in "the nut house",I was listed as "most likely running around naked"...wasnt amused and sent a nicely worded update on the current situation.Friend now mortified at her insensitivity and I feel like a right cow.

 

[amethist]

Wife of this is exactly what happened to me, I was hoping you would fair better.

The best people I have found to support and understand me are those at http://www.carers.org/

If they have an office in your nearest town wife of, just walk in and talk to them. Cup of tea or coffee, tissues warm atmosphere and so much understanding of what being a supporter does to us.

Try them, the web site will tell you the nearest one to you, then call them tomorrow.

Amethist

 

[The Albatross]

(((wife of))) hang tough... glad you set your friend straight... no need to feel remorse.