I did let my mom see my kids, supervised, while I was still in denial. In fact, I bent over backwards to try to facilitate a relationship between them. After I started therapy and realized how abusive she was, I feel really bad about that decision. Luckily my kids never did bond to her, so they dont miss her. They were also preschoolers when I cut off contact., so they pretty much let it go. I wouldn't now that my memories are recovered. If she wasn't safe for me, she isn't safe with any child. She doesn't have any rights to them. Why keep that door open when it will just be used to manipulate me later? Why risk them. And honestly, after my mom allowed me around her family, unsupervised, and now I realize what they did to her and she was willing to risk it, boy am I bothered by her. My uncle happens to have a thing for early teenaged girls...luckily I figured it out and protected myself. But my mother knew and failed to not allow contact. Thanks ma...
I would never allow my dad around my children for a second...never have, never will. He flies off the handle, talks to no one, screams at no one...I would never want my children to be scared like I was.
