I removed him from social media and stepped away from the situation. I’ll always be there for him, but it has to be from a distance. Sadly. Thank you. I appreciate your words.
Thank you. This gives me some hope. It’s not about him not showing up. It’s about disappearing without a word, it’s about me having to follow these rules...rules that even he wouldn’t be ok with...or he’ll leave. I didn’t delete him because I wanted to. I had to. I can’t handle him ignoring me, but carry on with people who he fakes it with.
We didn’t speak for a few months and when we finally started again it ended up being a month and a half of him making plans and never showing up. I don’t understand that and it just makes me feel not good enough and I don’t do well with that.
Well, he's making the plans and dropping the ball so I don't think it has anything to do with you. Crazy. Usually people that are PTSD have a heightened sense of vigilance and can see from the beginning whether or not to put themselves in a place that's not safe. So... I don't know girl. Like walking across the road looking three hundred ways of any suspitious behavior. I don't really know too many of us that make plAns from the beginning of anything. So, I'm at a loss.
I’ve officially taken that step. I know he has a lot more going on...depression/anxiety. I personally think he’s in survival mode right now. I don’t even know if that’s the right word.
Well he got ahold of me and I finally put my foot down and said I was done accepting his behavior and he went bonkers. I’m sad for his mental state, but this is mental abuse. No more.
I wish you the best of luck.
