Nelson2015
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This is so long... Please read. Thank you!!!
Hey guys... I have probably asked these same questions over and over on here, but I just need more. I'm going backward, and I feel horrible.
My fiancé broke up with me almost a month ago due to his Combat PTSD with TBI. We were inseparable for years... living together... getting engaged... He was the most lovino guy. He chased me for years, and he finally got me. It was like a fairytale. I wished I had come to my senses sooner and said yes the 1st time he asked me out many years ago.
His behavior changed abruptly. He started wanted to stay at a friend's house (a friend who had also had PTSD). Of course I thought... He is cheating. But he wouldn't do that. My gut still tells me that he wasn't cheating. He was shady with his phone... Which I layer found out he had his unit pictures as his background. I feel that he was protective of his phone. These days when we are around each other he texts a lot which is weird, but he is dealing with a lot at work... which means lots of conversation with colleagues.
Many factors had been stressing us both out for months. Money, family illness, having a small time frame to move, me with no job, full time work and school for him... Three weeks before all of that was going to get better he left me.
I think the straw that broke the camels back was when he went in for the physical to join a federal agency. The psych evaluation opened up a can of worms. He was diagnosed as clinically depressed. I feel like all the feelings he had obviously been hiding came out. Bam! His cup overflowed.
Of course I found out about this as we were breaking up.
Since we broke up he does talk to me almost daily. We have seen each other, and I have been told that his symptoms around me are not like they were a month ago (jittery, nervous).
We have had sex since we broke up.. which idk if that is bad or good. Ido what that means?
When we first broke up he told me that he doesn't see himself with anyone and we will never get back together. In the month we have been apart on 3 separate occasions (not when anything sexually was happening) I was told that he thinks there may be a chance we can work things out in the future. Each time I saw a glimpse of who I used to know. Advice?
He told me that he doesn't love me anymore, and he doesn't know when/or why he feels that way. Is it true that he could have those feelings buried? Are those feelings still there?
He never blamed me for anything which is good. It was more like... I'm scared of my anger. I'm a monster. I can't drag you through this... So why did he leave? Because he doesn't want to be with me? Or because he can't handle the stress of trying to protect me?
He has ruined our relationship (I'm aware tho not his fault). We have slept in the same bed together for years... Now we dont. It's weird. Do you think he misses me? Is that possible?
He says we will hang out. Is that a lie?
Why does he talk to me all day long some days, and others he doesn't talk? Why does he say that he wants to talk sometimes but then seems angryphon and shut out?
Thano for reading!! ♡
Hey guys... I have probably asked these same questions over and over on here, but I just need more. I'm going backward, and I feel horrible.
My fiancé broke up with me almost a month ago due to his Combat PTSD with TBI. We were inseparable for years... living together... getting engaged... He was the most lovino guy. He chased me for years, and he finally got me. It was like a fairytale. I wished I had come to my senses sooner and said yes the 1st time he asked me out many years ago.
His behavior changed abruptly. He started wanted to stay at a friend's house (a friend who had also had PTSD). Of course I thought... He is cheating. But he wouldn't do that. My gut still tells me that he wasn't cheating. He was shady with his phone... Which I layer found out he had his unit pictures as his background. I feel that he was protective of his phone. These days when we are around each other he texts a lot which is weird, but he is dealing with a lot at work... which means lots of conversation with colleagues.
Many factors had been stressing us both out for months. Money, family illness, having a small time frame to move, me with no job, full time work and school for him... Three weeks before all of that was going to get better he left me.
I think the straw that broke the camels back was when he went in for the physical to join a federal agency. The psych evaluation opened up a can of worms. He was diagnosed as clinically depressed. I feel like all the feelings he had obviously been hiding came out. Bam! His cup overflowed.
Of course I found out about this as we were breaking up.
Since we broke up he does talk to me almost daily. We have seen each other, and I have been told that his symptoms around me are not like they were a month ago (jittery, nervous).
We have had sex since we broke up.. which idk if that is bad or good. Ido what that means?
When we first broke up he told me that he doesn't see himself with anyone and we will never get back together. In the month we have been apart on 3 separate occasions (not when anything sexually was happening) I was told that he thinks there may be a chance we can work things out in the future. Each time I saw a glimpse of who I used to know. Advice?
He told me that he doesn't love me anymore, and he doesn't know when/or why he feels that way. Is it true that he could have those feelings buried? Are those feelings still there?
He never blamed me for anything which is good. It was more like... I'm scared of my anger. I'm a monster. I can't drag you through this... So why did he leave? Because he doesn't want to be with me? Or because he can't handle the stress of trying to protect me?
He has ruined our relationship (I'm aware tho not his fault). We have slept in the same bed together for years... Now we dont. It's weird. Do you think he misses me? Is that possible?
He says we will hang out. Is that a lie?
Why does he talk to me all day long some days, and others he doesn't talk? Why does he say that he wants to talk sometimes but then seems angryphon and shut out?
Thano for reading!! ♡
