Dear dear (DEAREST) Froggie, (((((Hugs))))).
You have done nothing wrong! 'You' are not causing anyone pain, simply this negative news and fear of losing you is.
I can only say Froggie, most of my family- 2 sisters, both parents, one uncle, one aunt, my grandfather, were all 'beyond' treatments and told that was the end of the line. Well, God had other plans. Conversely, the 2 times everything was 'great', it was not. My one sister was one of 50 people on an experimental drug, and been battling it since 1996.
We need you here, I think God will listen. Whether the cancer is present or not, you can live for decades (and I'm fully asking for that too :inlove:). A change in treatment options, even what may 'seem' like 'no option', may lead you to the precise treatment or conditions that are best for you for healing and utmost quality of life.
I hope that you will say whatever, and All, that you are feeling.
PS, as regards one's parent having cancer, (or any loved one dealing wit anything, really), just remember that what you're thinking and fear saying, is what they're also thinking and are afraid of saying. Then, don't be afraid to say it.
Much love and prayers to you Froggie, will do (and do) each day, xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox, (((((((((((((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))).