More Stupid Things People Say...

[batgirl]

This is a true story. It happened to me a month ago, shortly before my surgery. I was at Wal-Mart, sitting on one of those benches they provide, waiting while Dad was looking for a wheelchair to push me around in (saves energy for me not to have to walk through a huge store). Anyways, an older gentleman, 60s maybe, sits down next to me. I didn't feel like talking, so I tried to pretend I was reading, but I could feel his eyes on me. Finally he says all cheerfully:

"Lost your hair? Cancer?"

So I say "Yup. I'm having chemotherapy right now."

So he says, still all cheery, "Chemotherapy eh? I hear the cure is worse than the disease. Well, better you than me." And he snickers a bit.

I was too weak to kill him...

 

[hodge]

That's appalling. Looks like the 15-percent-jerk rule struck again; 15 percent of any given group of people are jerks.

 

[batgirl]

Unfortunately Hodge, that's just the tip of the iceberg... you wouldn't believe the number of dumbass comments I get thrown at me on a near daily basis... it's the one thing about cancer (and grieving too) that I really really hate.

 

[hodge]

Holy crap. Maybe the 15-percent-jerk rule needs to be bumped up?

 

[batgirl]

Haha yeah I think so!! This is the reason I am currently venting here in my blog, with this entry and the ones "Why Do People Say Such Stupid Things" and "The Forgotten Mourners"... there is method to my madness! ;) With all the pain, sickness and sadness going on for me and my family right now, I have to put up with "well intentioned" insensitive comments too???? I think not.

 

[hodge]

No way you should have to put up with that. Vent away!!

 

[batgirl]

Thanks Hodge. I could just vent on my cancer forum, and I do actually, it's a good place to vent because everyone there understands. But this is my blog, and I hope that people who read here will maybe learn something about how to talk to seriously ill or grieving people. I must educate the masses!!! ;)

 

[EmoxxKid]

What a num nut...Sorry that happen

 

[EmoxxKid]

On 2nd thought....

that sounds a whole lot like my father who said that...lol...

and yes...he does hang out at wal mart talking shit to people....

 

[batgirl]

LOL about your Dad... he doesn't live in Newfoundland does he? ;)

Seriously though sorry if he's like that. That must suck to have a dad like that.

 

[EmoxxKid]

it did and does suck....hence ptsd...lol