Mothers Day

[gidge]

Hey just curious. Is it mothers day worldwide this coming Sunday 8th May and if so does anyone have anything exciting planned?

My hubbie is home this Sunday which is the first in a very long time, and is not due to Mothers day but more he decided to take it off as Ive been under suicide watch, anyway im hoping for breakfast in bed but am being very very hopeful. Anyone else got anything planned?

 

[Reclusive]

I plan to send out obligatory messages and then feel sorry for myself for the rest of the day. I miss my mom.

Sorry, I don't mean to be a downer, it's just an issue for me. I hope you get your breakfast in bed, though! That should just happen on somewhat of a frequent basis. Mmmmm! Hope you h can cook!

 

[gidge]

Sorry I should have thought before starting this post. Didnt mean to bring up bad memories for anybody and am sorry if I did. Should have thought ((((((Reclusive)))).

 

[Reclusive]

Oh, no, don't worry about it. It's good to have a mother's day thread for all the mom's on here and those of us who do appreciate our moms. I've just been in a mood today, and I apologize for being a downer. I've been working in therapy about it so it's kinda fresh and sore. I'm sorry.

 

[The Albatross]

We are trying to arrange a Mothers Day brunch for my mom, mother in law, brother in law and his fiance at a local bistro. Trying to firm it up today, cross your fingers? It is really hard to get all of us in one place because of our various work schedules. But we really would like to be together as a family.

 

[Serene]

Well, I'm going to be a downer too. I despise Mother's Day. My children never acknowledge it. They are boys, so maybe they are just clueless as a lot of boys are about such things. Every year I try to make plans with someone so I don't spend the day alone. I thought about asking my sons if they want to get together for lunch or something but my oldest son is mad at me right now for not bailing him out of jail a few weeks ago. Another DUI. Both my children have issues with drugs and alcohol and they are well known by the police in two counties. I guess I feel like I wasn't a very good mother. They have had tough lives. I wish I could just disappear until the whole Mother's Day thing is over and forgotten.

 

[AngelaMarie]

Mother Day is difficult for me. I always remember that I never had a woman in my life that cared for me. It seems to bring that emptiness up in me. A hollow feeling. It's so hard to explain it! Also, my H has never given me a good holiday. I think it may be because he doesn't care for his mother? I do have my boys, but they are 12 and 10, so they enjoy their computers games at this point (totally normal). I noticed yesterday I was starting to feel depressed. Now I just have to ride it out.:(

Gidge, you should never apologize for a post that brings up feelings. The feelings may suck sometimes, but it is something that I need to face. At least I have somewhere to post my feelings.:)

I do want to wish you a wonderful breakfast and a good day.:tup:

 

[Froggie]

Gidge, wishing you a super breakfast in bed, even if H can only cook toast, it will be nice. But if he can whip up benedict eggs ... well girl, have a yummm time.

I get my kids that drop over with the grand children, I'm very lucky to have them. There have been rough times where sometimes that didn't happen, but they got older and got thinking about some things.

My hic with mother's day is my mother :cautious:. I don't love her, I have pity for her. The oldest of the boys and me are the only 2 who are legally taking care of her. I talk to her so that she doesn't flip loops. For the last 12-15 years, I haven't been able to send her a card saying how wonderful she is nor how lucky I am to have her. She just doesn't think before saying or doing something and it is never her fault if there is something bad that happens. The only reason that I still have a contact with her is because I know what she went through probably gave her PTSD but it's her personality problem that's just too hard to deal with.

So even if she is my hic for mother's day, I still do wish all of us moms something wonderful for the day, even if it ends up being ... no ptsd symptoms. Accomplish what you can and not what you want ... that is sometimes pretty hard with PTSD.

lots of hugs and linking arms

 

[KP the nut]

Our family don't celebrate days like Mothers Day. In the UK it was in March.

I wish a happy day to those who celebrate and to others it is just a day like any other. Shop hype has made it commercial.

I hope you all have a good day whatever you have planned. Just take the day as it comes and remember to relax, breathe and ground :D

 

[MAS444]

Mother's Day is hard. My mom physically abused me and was complicit in the sexual abuse. She's been better since I have gotten older, though, so I'll send her a card, but I feel an emptiness. I'm looking forward to being a mom, though! And I have two beautiful nieces.

 

[cherryblossom]

As KP says, it not Mothers Day here in the UK. We had it already.

I hope those that enjoy Mothers day, do so, and either get spoilt, if you are a mother, or spoil your own mother if it's an option.

For those of you that struggle with Mother's day, you might try reading [DLMURL]http://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/trauma-anniversaries-fact-vs-myth.13881/#post-192311[/DLMURL]. Whilst I understand that mothers day may not be a trauma anniversary, it helps put things into perspective over whether we allow any of day of the year to negatively affect us. Anyway, just thought I'd throw it out there, it might help someone ;)

 

[AngelaMarie]

Cherryblossom,
I wanted to thank you for your comment. I seem to have this fixation with dates. I know that it is something that comes with my PTSD because of my grandma doing the same thing every year. My H came in and said that he thought I deserved something for Mother's Day because I am such a great mother. My comment to him was "Yes, but I try to be a good mother all year, so it doesn't seem so important to celebrate this one day of the year". So, I am going to be a good mother that day to my children and just make it a normal day for me. I did the same thing with my birthday this year and things were better for me. Who knows? Maybe some day I will be able to look at those one day holidays differently. Thanks for the reminder again of what is important to me in the big picture!:)