Sexual Assault My boyfriend is a rapist

[Starlight1989]

I recovered enough, through lots of therapy, to be in a relationship with a man after CSA.

My boyfriend and I broke up.

My boyfriend and I broke up because he had sex with someone.

My boyfriend and I broke up because he had sex with someone who he was meant to be supporting. He was her support worker and she was barely an adult.

My boyfriend was arrested on suspicion of rape a few days ago.

I think he did it.

My boyfriend raped someone he was in a position of power over. He kissed me in the morning, raped her in the afternoon and then told me what a tough day he was having in the evening.

How do I even begin to process this?

 

[OceanSpray]

I am so sorry.

 

[Movingforward10]

I'm really sorry. That must cut to the core of you.

So much for you to process in one go.


Do you have people around you who know, understand, and can be there for you through this?

It is possible to process this. Look how much you have already processed. Huge life stresses can rock everything. And test your limits. But: you have learnt skills to manage stress and trauma. You can process this. One step at a time?

 

[Luke p]

In this type of situation you must be strong. Nows the time to tell him exactly how you feel to his face and leave him before youll be his next victim in a rage

 

[anthony]

Shit. Sorry to hear. I guess the positive is that you know this now, before the relationship continued to marriage. Get the f*ck out of that relationship now, if you haven't already.