Sufferer My Husband Says He Is Leaving Me.

[Jtini]

I am suffering from Ptsd and a bunch of other things. I went to a person that told us I might not get better.

Now my husband is taking that and running with it. Since then I have switched to a Psychologist and she says I can get better and get off meds. My husband has lost all faith in me.. Believes I will be sick as he calls it forever and he no longer wants to waste any more of his life on me, gee thanks for the last 14 years.

I have been crying for days, weeks and now hours, he is just going on with his life working around the clock not even coming home to sleep at night. He says he despises me, I make him sick..

I am such a wreck I have just about lost all hope

 

[Ron]

I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. I believe at this point you must concentrate on yourself. Concentrate on getting better andI believe in yourself. Seek out family and friends immediately to cope with your marital stress. Work hard and don't give up !

 

[Xibalba]

Your husband may be having problems of his own, and may need some kind of help. It will be hard, but try to have some compassion for him, as you also have compassion for yourself. My PTSD came about after my wife got caught up in a cult, and the first round of traumas were the result of the actions of her and the cult leader. I stuck it out, but when the symptoms of my (as yet undiagnosed) PTSD started to surface, she used that as an excuse to leave ME, causing another set of traumas. Still, I work to forgive her because I believe that no matter what happened, she was my soul mate, even if life has taken her from me. I am still working through this process, so have no concrete examples of success to point you towards, but can only say that hang onto yourself, and don't let his cruel words hurt you. They are coming from his own pain and have nothing to do with you.

 

[Brontie]

Jtini,

Welcome to the forum. This is going to be a really difficult time for you. I hope you'll stick around and let us support you through this if we can.

 

[Lidia]

Hi Jtini,

I really feel for you...I wish I could give you a hug. As someone who is dating a PTSD sufferer (and with problems of her own, which make it harder), I think the hardest thing to endure is the lack of empathy from the sufferer when they cause hurt to those around. I guess human beings are programmed in such a way that they switch their feelings off in order not to get hurt, and the hurt that comes from PTSD is significant. I know you don't mean any of it but I guess it is about how you convey that to him after the negative incidents. I guess it is about working extra hard on having true empathy for each other.

Maybe your husband just needs time to regain the needed strength. He must love you. After all, he remained by your side for a significant time, so I am sure he does love you. Try to think though that the more the love for a PTSD sufferer, the more the hurt one experiences because of the symptoms.

Try to focus on getting better and gaining perspective. You never know, maybe this will give him faith to come back.

I send you a virtual hug. x