My PTSD made him hate me

[Faketan]

Me and my partner have been together 2years, he now hates me because of my PTSD. I have high emotions and break down occasionally. He has never been able to handle it. He says I will look back and be embarrassed about the way I am and wonder I did it. I don't know how to be any different but I try and now I just feel shame and that my future will be full of shame about myself. I am obviously the problem and the way I am is unhealthy.

Can anyone help me figure out how to be more normal and calm.

 

[Abstract]

Hi,
Being traumatised is not your fault. What does that "break down occasionally" actually look like? If it is anger or more aimed at him or others that isn't appropriate to the situation then I am afraid we do need to take responsibility and find ways to manage these despite the awfulness of ptsd. Its probably important to look if it was him judging your PTSD and being unkind or if it was rather something related to behaviour that isnt a given with the ptsd. If that makes sense.

Good first step is to examine what happens so you are already heading in the right direction.

 

[Kubash16]

Are you currently in therapy?

 

[Friday]

I pretty much made a list of the things I didn’t like about myself -including different ways I treated other people- and tackled them one by one. It was a fairly fluid list, with whatever was creating the most problems for me at the top... but smaller/easier items sprinkled throughout.

 

[ILoveLife]

pretty much made a list of the things I didn’t like about myself -including different ways I treated other people- and tackled them one by one.

What an awesome idea, will do this today.

 

[EveHarrington]

Does he really hate you or is he just mad?

It sounds like he doesn’t really understand ptsd. Is he willing to learn more?

Are you on any medication? I find that meds help calm me, but they don’t take away my reactions completely.

:hug: