My Wife Is Seriously My Rock

[asadafagahajakal]

I dont know what I'd do without her. She's had my back as much as I've had hers. And we've been through hell and we're only halfway back.

This weekend has been really bad for us. This morning the pastor told me a rumour he heard about me abusing my own wife. I wish she was already at the church but I had to show up early for other reasons. Anyhow they questioned her after church, figured im no concern to her or my son (no shit I'd never hurt them. I never even cussed out my wife). But the damage was done, since everyone heard the story. all service, everyone was glaring at me. People were even staring down my wife. Like what the f*ck? She's the alleged "victim" and you're glaring at her?

Anyways she jumped on the issue right away and talked to the pastor and sorted everything out. And since I kept doubting myself over the whole scene, since I was actually questioning if I was being abusive, she didn't look at me like I'm stupid, she told me I've done nothing wrong and that people just want to mess with our marriage, since it wouldn't be the first time.

This all started with a woman that knows nothing about how my wife and I live, but for some reason hates my guts so that justifies slandering me.

But we didn't let that distance us at all. Even though today has been such a drain.

I really feel blessed to be with her. my wife and I are partners in crime all the way. Don't mess with us or our reputation :ninja::ninja:

Any of You want to share a "don't mess with us" couple story? I'd love to hear some.

 

[heyheyhey]

I'm so happy you have a great relationship with your wife :). Sorry that you've been slandered, maybe this woman is envious of your relationship? My boyfriend is lovely too, I woke up yesterday in the middle of the night and he asked, "Are you okay?" and I told him I had a bad dream and then he just cuddled me and I fell asleep again feeling all happy. I wasn't very well and he bought me chocolate, when my anxiety was going through the roof he just asked me what I needed, he was going to go travelling but said he would have stayed if I needed him, he is always kind and caring. He never gets annoyed or angry and never criticises me. We have never had an argument - we just 'argue' over who can take who to dinner. It's so nice to be with someone who wants to love and take care of and respect their partner, like I do. It's so nice to be with someone who is as harmonious as I am and who considers their partner all the time. Makes me think even more about what a stupid asshole my ex was, saying how the relationship issues were me as well - seeing as my current partner and I never fight and what a nice relationship we have, it really just highlights what a joke my ex was :).

 

[Tinyflame]

Whew- time for a new church!

 

[DJ!]

What a shame to have a place of solace be tainted like that! Shame on them! Love = strength. Your marriage will stand strong. That is such a beautiful thing to a person with PTSD.
Often I am not easy to love, and yet my husband always has time for a hug or gentle kiss right at the time I'm at my worst. He shows me daily that he is on this journey with me. He does not know everything, I am not there yet. But he knows I'm fighting an ugly battle and he's my wing man! I am blessed.

 

[DMerish]

Huh? Some woman at your church hates you for no apparent reason. She makes up a story about how you abuse your wife and publicizes it throughout the congregation? During a service? Did I misconstrue the facts? This sounds ridiculous!

Community is something that each person desperately needs. Thus, the person that spreads rumors, especially ones that are untrue, lacks respect for her and your community of church goers. I'm glad you and your wife are "tight" and that the matter was able to be sorted out.

I hope you and your wife receive an apology from the woman. And I hope the pastor's next sermon will speak of what it means to have good will towards each person in the congregation and for our fellow man/woman. Rumors are hard to rectify. They have a life of their own - like an infection that spreads unnecessary shame upon the target(s). If the matter isn't rectified, I I second Junebug's suggestion of finding a new church to attend.

{{hugs}}

 

[asadafagahajakal]

Whew- time for a new church!

You bet your ass. My wife and I have always had a hard time with non denominationals. And you wonder why half our friends are catholics and pagans lol

Huh? Some woman at your church hates you for no apparent reason. She makes up a story about how you abu...

Nope. She denied the whole thing and said they were getting harassed too. But nobody bothered them so I think they're full of shit. And no this was after last week's service, when we werent there. Then I guess word spread quick because not even our friends talked to us. Friggin blows.

She did spread it to the congregation, just not during service.

 

[DMerish]

I get it.
With me, it has baring on why I don't regularly attend church any more, nor am I as politically active as I once was. I just want a simple, relatively quiet and drama free life.

 

[Tinyflame]

I think there's gossip everywhere - churches. And it's a terrible feeling to also be treated by a person one way in public and another way in private without witnesses. Or to deal with lies. Yet there are also great people there too. But it erodes feelings of safety. It's very creepy. Who's lying, who's telling the truth? :(

I can't wrap my mind around why or how people could do such things, or why they'd want to. I'm so sorry.

not even our friends

Those are not friends.

:hug:

 

[henamedmeowl]

I am so happy that you have a rock in your home. You are so lucky :-) Also, I left a church because they made me feel ashamed of not being married...find a new flock. Hugs :-)