Need Help With Domestic Violence

[saoirserylyn]

Yeah, one of the cops last time pulled me aside and said he's seen it before. Where people get into relationships with people who have problems like ptsd just because they're victims and they're easy to control. He said he could tell my boyfriend was manipulative, but given the "proof marks" on my boyfriend, the cop said he couldn't do anything aside from make me leave.

 

[saoirserylyn]

Is there a way to get cheaper medical help? My insurance is terrible... I've never had to deal with this before outside of my trauma. I left work early today because I keep shaking and crying and freaking out.

 

[saoirserylyn]

I know from my trauma that I will not tollerate being touched violently from another person. I know that I need out, I just want to do so in the safest way possible. He's at work now, I left work early to have some time home alone to call the right authorities and get everything taken care of without him knowing. I have about 8 hours before he gets off work.

 

[WildMermaid]

Don't go home tonight. I don't know where are, but ca start posting national crisis, shelter, and hotline numbers if you need. If you go home and he even so much as a glimmer or sense there is something off or that you've told someone your life may well be in very serious danger. I'm a girl who lived, please know I'm telling you the truth.

 

[WildMermaid]

Get out of there, and do not go anywhere he knows you to go.

 

[saoirserylyn]

Thank you. I sent out a mass text to all my coworkers asking for a place to stay tonight. That way I can be close to work until I figure out something more permanent. Glad he works late. Will give me time to pack my things, worst case scenario I am going to lock myself in the bedroom or sleep in my car in my work parking lot.

 

[WildMermaid]

If he thinks for a second that you are asking others for help he may come home early just to check. Grab your essentials and get the bleep out. Life is the only thing that you cannot replace, and yours is valuable.

 

[Em C.]

Go to a mall or someplace public like that where police are nearby and would hear a scream. Make sure that wherever you go there are people around

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I know that this is hard to deal with, but I commend you for being SO strong and reaching out for help! You deserve SO much better, and I am glad that you are taking steps to get out of this bad situation! It is good that you are contacting people and letting them know what's going on. Silence only helps HIM! You have a voice, and you are so strong for using it!

 

[WildMermaid]

@Em C. is right! That is very sound advice.

 

[saoirserylyn]

Thank you all so much for the help. I'm hoping I only have to stay out of the apartment temporarily. I make just barely enough to afford the apartment, but my parents have told me in the past that if I needed a couple hundred extra a month they'd be willing to help so long as I wasn't living with him anymore. I'm wondering if I should also notify my leasing office of what is going on and that I'm trying to get him off the lease. Maybe they can help me once the police report is filed. I'm sure they don't want someone like him living here anymore than I do. Especially if they know I can still pay.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

He's twice my size and I don't trust what he'd do if I went to the police.

Apologies if I am being blunt but I am twice the size of my Ex Wife and have never nor would ever lay a hand on her or a female half my size and strength. I apologise if that makes me sexist, but hey, a *Real* man would have moved his bloody truck and not assaulted you in that manner.

This man really does need to feel just what it is like to be on the receiving end of my boot. Trust me, he would not want that a second time.
This man IMHO is the lowest form of abusive ***hole I have to admit is a man, This kind of *man* is the sort of person who gives the impression that *all men* are the same.

My only words on the matter that really count are these @saoirserylyn , get out however it is safest to do so. Go to the Police and make the report, your Injuries would clearly be those of a nasty assault by a person much bigger than you.

Please be safe and leave this thing (I refuse to call him a *man* any more because men, real men do not hit women and certainly do not Kick them when they are clearly injured already).

:hug:s

Laurie