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Freida
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Update!
I finally had a chance to talk with my niece this weekend and it went really well. I shared a bit about my own brain having issues and that I sometimes get really pissy and scream at uncle (hubby) and then I have to apologize and I hate that and she burst out laughing. I also admitted that sometimes I feel like stabbing someone in the head and if that doesnt work I want to stab myself in the head --- and that made her laugh also. Then she got serious and admitted that sometimes she doesn't know what to do with all her feelings and is hoping the therapist can help her.
We had a great talk about how if you have a spot in your brain that doesn't work you shouldn't just keep banging into it, instead you need to learn to walk around it. I told her a little bit about some of what my therapist does to help me and about the equine therapy I'm doing and why and what she can expect on this journey
But I think the biggest thing that got thru to her is when I said (in my auntie loving eye rolling way) "punkin you aint anything special. 1 out of 3 people have issues like this. It's not just you. Look around your family, look around your class, there are a ton of people fighting this same battle. You're not a freak." The look of relief on her face was heartbreaking. Then we had a good laugh trying to figure out which people she knows have brains like ours -- because, y'know, we are a special club.
Sis was a little undone (in a grateful head banging way) because this is the same stuff she has been telling niece for weeks -- but she also knows that sometimes you need to hear it from someone else too.
I promised Sis I would update you all and thank you, once again, for your guidance and ideas. Having your input made a huge difference in how we handled it. So thank you thank you thank you! We know it's still a long road, but we are cautiously optimistic that she knows we are there for her and that we believe in her.
I finally had a chance to talk with my niece this weekend and it went really well. I shared a bit about my own brain having issues and that I sometimes get really pissy and scream at uncle (hubby) and then I have to apologize and I hate that and she burst out laughing. I also admitted that sometimes I feel like stabbing someone in the head and if that doesnt work I want to stab myself in the head --- and that made her laugh also. Then she got serious and admitted that sometimes she doesn't know what to do with all her feelings and is hoping the therapist can help her.
We had a great talk about how if you have a spot in your brain that doesn't work you shouldn't just keep banging into it, instead you need to learn to walk around it. I told her a little bit about some of what my therapist does to help me and about the equine therapy I'm doing and why and what she can expect on this journey
But I think the biggest thing that got thru to her is when I said (in my auntie loving eye rolling way) "punkin you aint anything special. 1 out of 3 people have issues like this. It's not just you. Look around your family, look around your class, there are a ton of people fighting this same battle. You're not a freak." The look of relief on her face was heartbreaking. Then we had a good laugh trying to figure out which people she knows have brains like ours -- because, y'know, we are a special club.
Sis was a little undone (in a grateful head banging way) because this is the same stuff she has been telling niece for weeks -- but she also knows that sometimes you need to hear it from someone else too.
I promised Sis I would update you all and thank you, once again, for your guidance and ideas. Having your input made a huge difference in how we handled it. So thank you thank you thank you! We know it's still a long road, but we are cautiously optimistic that she knows we are there for her and that we believe in her.
