Sufferer Needing A Place To Fit In, From One Who Feels I Am Always On The Outside Looking In

[intothelight]

Welcome to the forum! PTSD is hard to explain to others, but their is some great information here that you may want to share with your family.

 

[Pilgrim]

That said, if there are ways people can support you without understanding on the level you wish they would, maybe you can let them know? As you say, they love you and genuinely care, so they probably want to help and don't know how. Could you ask them to just sit with you without giving advice, or whatever would feel supportive?

I do accept it, and also appreciate the advice.. I never thought about telling people ways they can be helpful, even if they don't fully 'get it'.. that is great advice, and i will have to think about that one, for a while, and see what I can come up with. Thanks so much for sharing, this is very helpful. :rolleyes: Hmm...

 

[Pilgrim]

I don't know about you however sometimes I want to reach out to others and then sometimes I just want to isolate and the reasons are that I'm mostly either ashamed or embarrassed of them hearing and seeing me this way. I need to stop worrying about what other people think and continue to force myself to be around people and realize that most are not focusing on me and especially in public places. I've found that getting out of the house and either focusing on nature and going to parks helps. Just getting out of the house and sitting outside in my yard also helps.

Yes. This is the story of my life, too.. if I can get out of bed on any given day, I'm doing good. I have to start getting outside, and sitting in the sun and fresh air, even if it's just for 10 minutes a day. This would help my mood a lot, I think. As far as being in public goes, I have found I have a dire need for a service dog, to help w my anxiety and panic attacks, and also to alert me to when I am dissociating, around people. My friend's service dog recently stepped in and played that role with me, and that made me aware of 'just' how deeply out of touch I am, with myself, in public. I hadn't realized just how badly I do that, until this dog was comforting me, and grounding me like that. Must. Have. Service dog. !!!

 

[Ghostybear73]

Welcome to the forum!!

 

[SabrinaB]

So pleased you found your way to this community which should provide the support and connection you may be missing in day-to-day life. While each story is unique, there is an assuring commonality of experience that reassures me that I'm not alone in my struggle. I am so grateful to have support from all the corners of the world, while sitting right here at home in front of my computer. It's a precious and beautiful gift that I wouldn't have if my life had gone in a different direction. Welcome to the forum and I look forward to hearing more about your life journey!

 

[The Klown]

ok: I will make a post. I have just been sitting back and monitoring different posts. I just opened up my can of worms and have been diagnosed with ptsd from Vietnam. I have held it in in for many years. I feel like everything I try is a failure. I am on my 3rd marriage and walk on egg shells to keep peace with this marriage. My wife appears to have a narsistic personalty and believes she has to have control on every situation, including intimacy, which has not happened in 3 or more years. I have not cheated unfortunately the thought has definately crossed my mind.
She does not understand why I cannot talk to her about the events that have caused the ptsd. Fortunately, I have never gone to the drug or alcahol scene.. I tell her I have experienced the three different events and I do not know how to explain it for her to understand. The only way someone will fully know is to have experienced the events. Unfortunately, I do not fully understand so how am I suppose to explain ptsd events to her if I do not fully understand them.
The violent nightmares 2-3 times weekly along with daily migraines I like all of you ask what did I do to deserve this.I can only hope and pray life will improve.
No, I am not crying on your shoulder (I do enough of that on my own), I am only asking for some feedback. God bless each of you. Prayers daily for you. I see the word normal. Actually what is normal.

 

[Deleted member 29961]

Welcome Pilgrim!