No attachment feelings

[zoie33]

I read about everyone's attachment issues and I wonder what the heck is wrong with me. I am an only child who experienced multiple kinds of abuse from an early age from both parents. As a result I mainly tried to avoid everyone including my paternal grandparents who lived on the same property. (There was abuse from them as well) Anyway, I always felt so alone dealing with my inner pain and misery. It was never safe to attach to anyone and I mainly raised myself. I was alone much of the time as the adults were all working at the family business. I was required to work there as well from about 10 on.

My question is, why do I have absolutely NO attachment feelings to anyone including my therapist. Don't get me wrong, it is not that I want to have this problem as I read how so many here suffer from it but I just wonder if there is something wrong with me that I have no desire to attach to anyone. I guess I wonder, if you were abused by your parents when you were young why on earth would you miss the attachment with them or why would you want your T to take their place? I am totally clueless on this subject. Any ideas or explanations would be appreciated because I feel like I am seriously broken.

 

[Crow]

Look up attachment disorders. There are some good YouTube videos. Sounds like disorganized attachment disorder. Totally not uncommon with trauma. You're totally not alone.

 

[EveHarrington]

You could have an attachment disorder. Have you found any info thus far on attachment disorders?

 

[The Albatross]

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[Suzetig]

Attachment disorder is a pretty complex assessment process - which no one here is qualified to make and certainly can't be self diagnosed. The vast majority of people don't have a secure attachment style and most do just fine as adults so try not to set too much store on how your T relationship compares to others.

Attachment theory is just one of dozens of theories that outline how we might develop as children and is very fashionable at the moment but it's not the only, or even the most complete, theory of personality. As with anything take from it what helps you and don't worry about the rest.

If your therapy works for you, that really is the main thing.