No sympathy for ppl like me

[Freida]

Had to put a cpr on hold for another 911 call -- gal wanted to know who the governor was because she made a bet with her friend and they couldn't find the answer. Came close to getting fired that day! Job security..job security....job security...LOL

 

[Gs172003]

Had to put a cpr on hold for another 911 call -- gal wanted to know who the governor was because she mad...

O. M. G.

 

[Freida]

LOL Feel the pain!!

 

[CdnCopper]

Whenever we got a winter storm...and we do get some good ones up here, our 911 lines would be jammed with morons wanting weather reports, road conditions, wanting us to call their bosses to give them the day off, wondering if they should go to the grocery store....yeah not much wonder I was on blood pressure meds.

 

[digger]

I'm not sure this is the kind of thing @alienplantnapper was talking about in their OP. It didn't read to me as being an issue with people discussing trivial or non traumatic events in the same arena as traumatic events, but more an issue with struggling with understanding the need to discuss trauma details and perhaps minimising their own experiences, struggling with finding sympathy for certain types of trauma.

I may be wrong - please correct me if so @alienplantnapper

I think a separate thread for this side topic would be more appropriate now - @Freida , @CdnCopper , @Zoogal - thanks

 

[alienplantnapper]

I'm not sure this is the kind of thing @alienplantnapper was talking about in their O...

Youre right..
Ib get where they're coming from too though.
Actualyy...
I just left therapy for the day and my therapist basically said that i want the help and to get better.. but i dont want to do the work of thinking and talking about the issues and im avoiding too much.
But..im getting a bit better.. and i don't believe that talking specifically about a cause makes it necessarily faster or easier.
So..
Yeah. Theres that. :/

 

[Gs172003]

Youre right..
Ib get where they're coming from too though.
Actualyy...
I just left therapy for...

You sound like me friend.

 

[Tinyflame]

Hi @alienplantnapper , from what I understand it's not the details specifically, nor talking 'about' things proper in this regard: for example, many professions can't speak of information, (nor would T's expect them to), there is confidentiality or security factors involved. Many things may have been spoken about, as in required documentation already, to the sources with a need to know, or Police reports, etc.

However, what is lacking is feeling and expressing the emotions that were present. I find that really under lock-down inside. Even identifying or recognizing them is a huge feat, or knowing what they are. I find that flashbacks are one of the only ways for me, and only if I write it down directly after or I can't recall.

Maybe denying it matters at all to remember, and thinking 'Suck it up Buttercup' and Get over It to ourselves +/or others is a way to deny it.

Ps, good luck with it. I've been at this a long time, and I think they're right about it. Lack of (self)-empathy really puts the brakes on having to 'deal' with it.

 

[shatter eyes]

For me i need someone i trust to walk me thru the cycle of change. It was hard to talk to many Ts and I been told I contradict myself or being ambivalent... that i do want to do the work... that i am dancing around or dipping my toes in water when i say i want to swim.

That all changed when i met the people i felt safe and trusted enough to let them guide me. I think anyone T that says you dont want to do the work is...maybe THEY dont want to do their work of allowing us to open at our own pace.

It is up to us if we want to take the risk and open up.

 

[Mee]

I trust and open up to my T entirely. That doesn't mean I always agree with her. I think I feel out of step with a lot if thought, and did before trauma but that it is difficult to know what of that is useful to future ’mee’ and what needs change through work. I want to be a well ’mee’not someone else. I can see my morals/ spirituality might not be mainstream but foes that mean they are ’wrong?’ I think ’people like me’ in years past probably would have retreated into religious orders if some sort ( I am not religious) and tried to make sense of this that way.