Non-spoken about past after therapy

[scout86]

Does this ever get easier?

I have no idea, for sure, but I think so. Dealing with the discomfort is just part of the process. When you think about it, you were basically trained the "loving and being loved" is either dangerous or impossible. There ARE other ways of experiencing things (I guess), but it's harder to relearn something than it is to learn it right the first time. Like it's harder to train a dog to walk nicely on a leash, if it's already learned to pull than it is to teach it correctly from the beginning.

You can do this!

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Like it's harder to train a dog to walk nicely on a leash, if it's already learned to pull than it is to teach it correctly from the beginning.

I can understand that. Both tasks "cover" and "block" (crowd control, cover is behind me and block, or his command is "front", is in front of me) were retrains. Block was retrained 3 times thus now he struggles still with wanting to sit as that's how it was trained the 2nd time so now the 3rd is even harder but I wanted it to double as a mobility task. Retrains because I went the "typical" route off of videos I saw of the tasks and didn't think of how I needed the task. Then the 3rd to try to use one command for 2 tasks rather then making a 2nd command.

So, I can get that part. A dog, and a person, tends to always do what they were first taught and relearning a 2nd time is hard and a 3rd time is even harder.

Just like to love and be loved is a basic human need like the need to breath air and drink water. This seems to be hitting me in the core beliefs area. I'm not sure if it's supposed to be there as there is where "not deserving it" and "not worthy of it" live and he says it's bigger then those but what's bigger then a person's core belief system?

As you can see, still trying to wrap my head around it but I'm trying really hard.

 

[scout86]

. This seems to be hitting me in the core beliefs area.

It wouldn't surprise me at all of you've got a core belief around love needing to be earned or deserved, and trust, and safety etc.

My T likes to talk about the "loving and being loved" thing too. I think when he wants to see me cringe. LOL I don't even really like to use the L word. I think my personal core belief is that it's a trick.

You'll get this, I'm sure. But it's a task thing and I very much relate it.