Not Able to Ask For Help at Work - Anxiety Spikes

[OceanSpray]

I wasn’t sure if I should post this here or in the employment area.

But does anyone else have a hard time asking for help at work? I’m a substitute teacher and usually feel pretty confident in my job. But some days do get rough. I have a great admin that every time I come in, reiterate to me to not hesitate to call them for help if there’s anything at all.

But I do. I don’t dare call, no matter how rough it gets (outside of blatant safety concerns) because that feels weak, or like I’m admitting failure, and that I don’t deserve to even have that job if I can’t handle it.

 

[arfie]

hello ocean spray. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

i debated with myself whether to post this response here or in the "feeling like a sham" post. way back in the 70's/80's i received formal therapy for "the imposter syndrome." i just did a little mini-surf to see if that is still an official thing and found that it is and even seems to carry similar theories. translating psychobabble from the 70's to the 21st century is often a challenge. the imposter syndrome theory set seems to have carried forward more or less intact.

anyhoo. . . in my personal psych files, feeling like a sham made it nearly impossible to ask for help anywhere, but most especially at work where fraud is taken quite seriously.

but that is me and every case is unique. . .

steadying support while you sort your own case.
welcome aboard. you are not alone.

 

[Rose White]

Agree with @arfie about imposter syndrome. @OceanSpray you don’t have to be perfect. You’re allowed to take up space and have wants and needs and voice them.

 

[Friday]

Mod Note : I did move this into employment forum, as anxiety/ core beliefs & cognitive distortions/ ptsd symptom spikes in general… around employment / our jobs, which either provide a living or provide XYZABC? Yep. It gets complicated. Because? Employment. The same way relationships are complicated by being relationships. No fuss. No muss. We do this -moving threads- all the time!

That your anxiety spikes, I’ve added to your title.

 

[OceanSpray]

Mod Note : I did move this into employment forum, as anxiety/ core beliefs & cognitive distortions/ ptsd symptom spikes in general… around employment / our jobs, which either provide a living or provide XYZABC? Yep. It gets complicated. Because? Employment. The same way relationships are complicated by being relationships. No fuss. No muss. We do this -moving threads- all the time!

That your anxiety spikes, I’ve added to your title.

Thank you