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OP here,
Well, this has been a WAY messier process than expected.... I had a few mind-numbing conversations with people with some of the organizations involved that didn't really know what they were talking about.... Omg, it was bad. Really bad. I actually got more worried as this process went on, people said some really dumb things about kids ability to consent to this project... but I gently insisted on talking to the top folks involved who would really know what exactly was happening. I finally reached the right people.
The final outcome is good. I am relieved.
Turns out, all the survivors involved are all adults now, all over the age of 18, all working their own jobs and etc. Some are now helping rescue folks themselves. Some are teachers and etc. All are fully adults and all have received extensive counseling and support, and not dependent on the organizations involved.
Which certainly changes things.
That wasn't made clear anywhere. So we talked it through, and they are going to make that a lot more clear now.
They offered to show me blank consent forms and the security procedures they follow, and policies about who they will ask to be involved. I'm just so glad they got consent when they were adults. Not still kids.
The two directors that I spoke to said they really appreciated my sensitivity and concerns. They didn't blow me off, they didn't ask me for anything either, but said it was great feedback and they were glad. :) They also said they are going to update their staff on what's going on so they can better answer questions without saying all the stupid stuff that was said to me earlier this afternoon too. So that's good too.
We did also talk about the race issue... Yep, I went there. Both of them were receptive. We talked quite a bit about issues here in the US and in other countries and how all this gets portrayed. They got it, and was wrestling through it themselves.
Overall, I am relieved.
Well, this has been a WAY messier process than expected.... I had a few mind-numbing conversations with people with some of the organizations involved that didn't really know what they were talking about.... Omg, it was bad. Really bad. I actually got more worried as this process went on, people said some really dumb things about kids ability to consent to this project... but I gently insisted on talking to the top folks involved who would really know what exactly was happening. I finally reached the right people.
The final outcome is good. I am relieved.
Turns out, all the survivors involved are all adults now, all over the age of 18, all working their own jobs and etc. Some are now helping rescue folks themselves. Some are teachers and etc. All are fully adults and all have received extensive counseling and support, and not dependent on the organizations involved.
Which certainly changes things.
That wasn't made clear anywhere. So we talked it through, and they are going to make that a lot more clear now.
They offered to show me blank consent forms and the security procedures they follow, and policies about who they will ask to be involved. I'm just so glad they got consent when they were adults. Not still kids.
The two directors that I spoke to said they really appreciated my sensitivity and concerns. They didn't blow me off, they didn't ask me for anything either, but said it was great feedback and they were glad. :) They also said they are going to update their staff on what's going on so they can better answer questions without saying all the stupid stuff that was said to me earlier this afternoon too. So that's good too.
We did also talk about the race issue... Yep, I went there. Both of them were receptive. We talked quite a bit about issues here in the US and in other countries and how all this gets portrayed. They got it, and was wrestling through it themselves.
Overall, I am relieved.
