Relationship Overcoming the barriers caused by emotional numbing

[Freida]

@Freida I’ve been following a lot of the posts that you comment in and it really is incredibly insightful and helpful hearing it from the other perspective. I know that you have also said that you’ve benefited from hearing from supporters about how it is for them. Would this be something that you would recommend to other sufferers? I’m wondering if the time ever comes that I might point my SO (ex-forces) towards some of the threads on here. It seems as though so much of whatever either party is going through is either completely not known or misinterpreted. Keen to get your thoughts if you’re happy to share? ?

Yes and no.....lol
I came here originally because I was really struggling and this was a place full of people who knew exactly what I was going thru. I'd found somewhere I could create my Island of Misfit Toys and invite like-trauma'd people to drink margaritas with me :laugh:

Finding the supporter part was really important for me because it was shocking to see what they go thru. At the same time it complicated things for me because it made me see that "my" problems were negatively affecting those around me. I had no idea --- and it wasn't easy to try to sort that out. At all.

So yes -- I would highly recommend sufferers coming here because it is an awesome place to figure out how to live with this mess they call ptsd from both sides of the coin. But I think it's important to understand that shame is a huge part of the PTSD challenge for many of us, which means anonymity can be critical. It's super important to me that people IRL don't know I"m here -- because I don't want them to know about what I've done. Which is why, while it would probably help hubby, I would never want him on this site as a supporter. I know it would be good for him but it's way too easy to figure out who I am and there are way to many things I talk about here that he doesn't know.

So I'm not sure both you and your guy could share this place. Which sucks.

Maybe someone out there who is doing it successfully will weigh in?????

 

[Respectfully1979]

Thanks @Freida for sharing ?

 

[SweetPainfulLoving]

So I'm not sure both you and your guy could share this place. Which sucks.

Maybe someone out there who is doing it successfully will weigh in?????

There is a private supporters group on this forum. You have to ask to be made a member. It is great for privacy, but you are someone limited to feedback as there are much fewer of us on there.

They also have private groups for PTSD sufferers ie military, first responders, etc., so your partner can get the support he needs without worrying about you coming across his posts.

Just something to consider.

Best of luck.