Oversharing

[Deleted member 36028]

So i shared a lot with my manager, i felt the need to let it out and wheever we had a return to work meeting the interaction was awkward and so explained things. They also saw me nearly have a panic attack. Ever since i found them a little overbearing and felt like they were watching me. So i made the decision i wasnt going to share with them or let them know. It is kinda hard for them because they defiantly have the message that i wont talk to them but over the last month my behavior has been noticeably distressed. To be fair they are giving me space that i have signalled i want, but i feel resentful towards them and alone in the workplace. We kinda bonded over other stuff too and that has gone.
I must admit there is some transference going on and i am becoming slightly obessessed by them.
Does anyone have any advice going forward. I am battling with a felt need/want to share with a resentfullness of sharing when i do.

 

[RecedingMoonlight]

It all depends on how you want to address it.

I can't say for sure since I'm not in the position of your coworkers, but by the looks of it, it seems like they are respectful and understanding. They are giving you space not out of alienation, but out of the fact that you asked them to.

I know you must feel very vulnerable - especially after talking to your manager and revealing aspects about yourself that you are not used to talking with people.

If you wish to interact with coworkers on a basic level, initiate conversation over things you bonded with previously. Showing a more light and willing tone could give your coworkers the signal that you're ok with talking to them again and you don't need space anymore. Unless you don't want to talk to your coworkers - then that's something else altogether.

Do you have a therapist or a doctor that you can talk to about this? Maybe they could help you in regards to your feelings of transference.

 

[Freedomfighter]

So i shared a lot with my manager, i felt the need to let it out and wheever we had a return to work me...

One has to be much more cautious in the workplace. I know so many workers who would love to "switch" jobs with me, without my approval, who sabotage others, who attempt to harass them out of the workplace.

I had a young coworker go way out of line the other day and it just made me realize that I have to be very careful. No, I do not try to be anyone's friend at work, nowadays that is simply foolish.