Aloha!
As a supporter? Understanding this >>>
The ptsd cup explanation <<< is both one of the most useful, and one. of. the. most. frustrating. things for when the people we love are losing their shit. And we see it happening. See it tee’ing up. And are powerless to get them to do what we so clearly see they need doing.
Go for a run! Take a shower! For the love of Mike, do something to… kaBOOM!… Too late. >.<
But? It DOES allow for that same kind of mental/emotional distancing & not taking things personally that we did back when they were toddlers, and losing their shit. Why hello, tantrum.
Yes, I see you. No, I don’t care. (Much. Unless I am ALSO having a bad day. In which case I’m gritting my teeth to avoid banging my own head against a brick wall.)
I have (combat) PTSD.
My 20yo son survived my terrible choice in (ex!)husbands.
Watching my kid suffer? Is by far the most brutal / painful thing I have ever experienced in my life.
