Parents, Is This My Ptsd Talking Or Am I Being Reasonable?

[WillyKat]

Perfectly reasonable response. What isn't reasonable is not notifying the parents. So is this a legit preschool or just the one teacher? Just curious.

When my kid was in school, these things would be scheduled well in advance with multiple notifications, a list of things to pack, and desperate pleas for parents to volunteer. So this sounds well off the charts.

Some teachers are definitely in the wrong line of work.

 

[PTSDfree]

Parents should absolutely be notified in advance. You aren't being unreasonable. If I'm not wrong, I'm pretty sue it's against the law to not provide a consent form.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I would be very angry to the point that I would not allow my child to go on this field trip and begin to look for another school, because when my kids were in school I had to sign release forms for them to be able to go and there was more than enough advance notice. Huge red flags are going up for me on this situation.

I wish you well. This situation really sucks. He is your child, and you as the parents have the right to call the shots no matter how expensive the school or prestigious in my opinion.:hug:

 

[Freedomfighter]

I don't think you are overreacting at all. I was actually shocked when I first read this, because I've...

Agreed, that is a strange move by the teacher, may be meant as a nice thing to do, but to watch that many young kids, anyone with experience knows that just watching one kid at a fair could be a major and dangerous task.
I would be upset too, used to entrust my own son around 3 or 4 years old to a babysitter that transported several kids at one time. Only later did I find out that she was incapable of supervising the kids while picking one up at school. What did she do? She locked the others into her car, my son included, so she did not loose any of the kids.
My son totally freaked out and lost it, remember it to this day. Nope I would not trust that situation if I were you either.

 

[BuckarooBanzai]

You have every reason to be concerned and even angry.

I wonder, though: Given your level of anger and the PTSD thrown into the mix, might it be better to go with your written email instead of a conference right now? Your email is very good; I would imagine that, if you beefed it up just a tad, you could bypass the whole confrontation.

Ben

 

[sedna]

I have a son who is almost 3 who just recently started preschool. I was hesitant to enroll him in presc...

Your response is totally reasonable. I suggest you send an e-mail to avoid feeling that your emotions will create the wrong tone for the dialogue you want.

Another suggestion is that you consider there was some kind of mailer or handout that you didnt receive, if you're already sure that wasnt the case, still include the possibility in your e-mail because it will diffuse the situation by looking at reasonable possibilities. In reality, they should have had a signature from you before removing your son from school grounds. I'm pretty sure thats a standard everywhere.

I can think of some exceptions in my personal experience, and thats when its a small private or charter school . Is it a co-op?
That doesnt make it okay, but they can get lax about what the school district rules are because they feel separate. If its a parent participation co-op then they
get cozy with each other and sometimes forget.

A fair is big, with crowds- strangers -rides- public bathrooms etc. Honestly that would have filled me with anxiety also.

It's also so hard to be a parent with ptsd and have to self check all the time. Wondering if you're normal in your concerns or being triggered to death over having a small child. That mercifully gets easier as they get older.... ( and have cell phones )

 

[Silver.]

Hi there,
I was just wondering if you had this resolved, how it worked out for you and your family.
Hope all is well
take care