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Relationship Ptsd Is A Difficult Country

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LizardViolet

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I wrote this extended metaphor the other day. I've had a tough couple of weeks, but I'm doing better now. Just wanted to share it with others who have been there.

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You grew up in a difficult country. The valley was called Anger and the mountains were called Pain. I think your parents had grown up there too, or moved there when they were young, and they didn't know there was anywhere else to live. The stones from the mountains called Pain were everywhere. You stepped on them and you slept on them and your parents fed them to you because they didn't know there was anything else to eat.

When you could, you ran away, but the stones were still in your belly and in your heart and shards were still stuck in your feet. It is hard to leave the valley called Anger, but you found a path. You weren't sure where it would lead. You met a girl, and for a while the two of you lived together, but you were still in the valley called Anger. The shards in your fingers hurt her when you touched her. At last, after many years, she could not stand the pain any longer and she asked you to leave.

You followed the path for a while again, and you began to climb out of the valley, but the foothills of the mountains called Pain are still treacherous.

I saw you there, and I came to you. I followed you into the difficult country. I had never lived there before. I had scarcely known it existed. I listened to your stories, and learned a little of that country's geography. I started to be able to recognize the people who had grown up there when I saw them on the other side of the mountains. I was surprised at how many there were.

What I did not expect was what happened to me after I had stayed with you for a while in that difficult country. I did not live there all the time, but I started to pick up shards from the mountains called Pain in my own feet and hands. You touched me with tenderness, but the shards in your fingers sometimes cut me.

You gave me gifts of love and trust, precious and rare things that you had kept hidden in a secret place. Because I did not grow up in that difficult country, I gave you my gifts of love and trust with open hands. You held them carefully, but the shards in your fingers sometimes wounded them.

I found some secret knowledge, books that are rarely spoken of in that difficult country. In the books I found a map that those who grew up there, who believed they were trapped there, could use to find their way to a kinder, easier place. I learned that there were guides who could take a person along the narrow path through the mountains called Pain, who could steer them along the right turnings and protect them from rock slides and gaps in the road. Some say that along the path is a healer who can extract the shards of Pain from the bodies of the travelers. Some say that walking that path makes a person strong, so strong that the shards fall away by themselves.

I live here with you now, and I see that there is blood on my face and blood on my hands, where those tiny sharp stones have stuck. I won't leave you. I promised this.

I have seen the guides. One of them took a few stones out of my hands and my heart. But I think you still believe you are trapped here. I came here to be beside you, but I don't know what will happen to me now. I won't leave without you. My family waits for me on the other side of the mountains. I won't leave without you. I am doing my best not to forget the way.
 
That's really lovely, and I hope it's ok to share one with you too. It's about hope.

The Angel breathed in the dank bleached air of a white-washed world that barely covered the dirt lying just beneath its surface. Turning sorrowfully back to the new life, cradled beneath a feathered wing, the Angel whispered…

“I shall name you ‘Innocence’” she breathed, solemnly turning a teary gaze on the darkness enveloping the infants little light.

In time the figures that dwelled there would be drawn like moths, to the enticing light of little Innocence. The darkness of their minds branding their guilt and shame upon her skin. But the child’s heart beat ever brighter as she made her way through the dying world.

She didn’t mind when the other children wanted her to carry their anger, or when the adults gave her their disappointment and regret to hold. She sought out the hurt of others and gently took their blame to carry as her own. And as she grew toward adulthood, she carried her own pain and mistakes too.

But in the aching heart of Innocence, she saw only Angel’s
tears in all she met.
Ever onward she trod as the aching grew. Beneath the crushing pain, the tired face of Innocence grimaced, laughter faded, the sweetness of the child’s voice and the light of once bright eyes dulled, until the world saw only a haggard old woman. Now they gave her the harsh realities of their lives to carry as one deserving of scorn.

Until one dark day, Innocence cried out “No More”.

Unseen, unheard, unwanted, she walked on alone until at last she collapsed beneath the dark branching wings of an old oak.

In the heavens Angels cried out to the hearts of healers, that they might hear the dying voice of innocence as she prayed. But none rose to hear the cries; none came to take their share of the weight. And under the tears of Angels, Innocence died.

As the body she had carried rotted beneath the old oak, the people once again began to feel their shame. Until one day an Angel came, opening her wing, she whispered softly to the child within…

“I shall name you ‘Hope’” she breathed, solemnly turning her teary gaze to the tiny stars of innocence that glistened in the darkness.
 
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