Pushing Away A Guy

[jewel]

Okay, so I have been alone aside from my daughter, since my accident, no friends, no dating, nobody! So a guy comes into my life by happenstance and wants to get to know me. I sent him here to learn about me first. Then I sent him to read my threads...still couldn't get him to go away. He said I think you need someone like me to help you learn to get out more. Yes, he had a point however, his future thinking made me go into automatic shutdown. He was planning the next few years and I am having a hard enough time getting through this week.

He bought a ticket to visit me and now I can't have him visit me because i am in shutdown mode. He scared me. He called me five times today and I can't stand the phone. Now i feel guilty about his plane ticket but i feel relieved my home is my home. Come on, please tell me I'm not alone in this. Do any of you have similar feelings where you push people away?

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[Grace11]

I understand your feelings...have you been direct with him about yours? It seems like you tried to do that and he's not respecting your boundaries. You may not be pushing him away...especially if you've been open. He may be taking it too far...just something to think about..

 

[dsantos]

I have pushed people away. Partly because I like to be alone and I am hardly ever alone. So, when I get a chance to be by myself, it feels good. I am very dedicated to my immediate family. So, sometimes the stimulus of other people is too much for me. Maybe this is what you are experiencing with the guy who is trying to get close.
Right now I am pushing my partner away. His voice bothers me...just grates on my nerves. This happens when I am on edge. I've been especially on edge lately. I want to focus on my sons right now. I know he wants to help, but he is too pushy.
If I am irritible, I am better left alone.
I, too, hate the phone. I have lost two friends because of my lack of long conversations on the phone skills. I have to be in a really special place to pull it off, which means it only works when I am in the place to initiate the phone call.