Question For Sufferers

[medley29]

@medley29 you ARE doing a good job and it's evident you're trying by coming here and...

I'm afraid to straight up ask him right now, because he's not responding to any texts. It makes me wonder if I'm doing something wrong, or if he's just in survival mode.

 

[SeaQuel]

Ah, sorry....I missed that part. I would just give him some space right now then. He'll get in contact when he can.

 

[medley29]

Would you recommend sending a little something and letting him know I'm not going anywhere, and I'm just trying to give him space?

 

[medley29]

@SeaQuel I've seen a lot about sufferers being afraid of being left or abandoned and I don't want him to think that's what's happening.

 

[SeaQuel]

Yea, that's understandable. I'm not sure really I can advise you either way - there's so many factors at play, including the context of your last conversation, where you left things, the nature of your relationship etc. Try not to stress too much, he'll come around.

 

[medley29]

Before this we spent a lot of time together. Even the Friday that the doctor changed his meds, he still wanted me there that weekend and I just rubbed his head for him or his back when he didn't feel good. It was a quiet weekend and we just watched tv together. Before he went completely quiet, i would just tell him I hoped he had a good day and he would text back, "I'm trying." He did let me bring my dog over to his house this past Wednesday while he was at work and play with his dogs. I feel that he is doing his best. He has tried to open up a little a few times. Once I told him I wouldn't pretend to understand what he was feeling but that I was here. He told me he knew I was, and that he was just mentally broken and explained a little to me. That was a couple of weeks ago. It seems to me that even after things started getting hard, he kept trying. To him, I think even sending those little messages were hard. I care about him a lot and just want what's best for him, even if it's hard for me. He is worth it.

 

[medley29]

I also realized that throughout this whole thread I never mentioned that he is my boyfriend. He was the one who decided when he would get that title. It was kind of funny because we never even really talked about it. One day he just referred to himself as my boyfriend. And that was that. Haha.