General Re-gaining Control Of The Nightmares

[amethist]

My husband, as many do, is having problems with nightmares again, waking up in a cold or hot sweat in total panic. Not being able to stop or control them, to the point of not wanting to sleep, in case they wake him up.

This time he is in Court, facing the guy who caused his accident, being taunted and shouted at by this guy, with no one standing up and stopping it. The judge just sits there and my husband is not able to stop it all no matter what he says.

I asked a friend what she though about it, as I could not interpret this one. She came up with a good idea, that hubby feels he is not being listened to or believed, how all this has effected him. He agreed that this could be the case, as he does feel as if some who should, do not believe him.

So yesterday I suggested that when this happens again, he has all his Professional supporters stood behind him. Including his Therapist, Community support, Solicitor, Barrister and the Professor who supplied the Independent Psychologists report, to speak for him when this happened again. To keep doing this until finally the guy shut up, sat down, and put his head down.

He did this last night, and it worked, the guy did not put his head down, but he did shut up and sit down. So he said he will keep doing this, as they are the ones who will be listened to, until the day comes when he can do this for himself.

Now we just have to wait for his Therapist to get in touch, for more EMDR, to try and put the rest away.

Hopefully once all the legal stuff is finished with, he can start to put more of this behind him, and build more of his life back up again.

Amethist

 

[KP the nut]

(((Amethist and Hubby))))

That was a great idea to suggest he has his professionals there. Nightmares are awful and having a strategy does help. T did help me to understand why I was dreaming what I was and EMDR helped me to process it. It has helped although sometimes the demons are waiting.

I am just starting the legal stuff after almost 2 years. My lawyer was waiting for my treatments to be finished. If all goes to plan, treatment of all kinds will be finished at the end of Nov. I have to see my first specialist consultant on the 22nd Nov. H is coming with me.

I will light a candle for hope that those of us who are taking a legal route have a smooth journey with the outcome we deserve.

 

[amethist]

Thanks KP, we are almost at the end of our Legal road now. 41/2 years down the line, we are only weeks away from completion now.

So if you want any hints and tips, just ask.