Relationship With My Vet

[Barconian]

He likes you, sthrngirl

 

[Dee Morris]

He might just be scared of rejection or he might just not be sure yet. Either way, it sounds like he is opening himself up to you. It's only been 6 months... some people take a little bit of time to develop that kind of connection. His behavior seems to demonstrate trust and caring for you. The physical affection would be important to me in a relationship If I were interested in pursuing a life with that person because the bottom line for me is that I NEED that physical affection in order to allow myself to feel vulnerable enough to fall in love. Words mean nothing to me. Lot's of people who claimed to love me have done nothing but hurt me and that just doesn't seem like what love is supposed to be about.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

I like to show others that I care about them by giving them things. Nothing of high value, but usually something small that let's them know I'm thinking of them.

For my part we I was still together with my estranged wife I would buy her small insignificance gifts as a "Show" of love or affection.. Never big bouquets of flowers or expensive chocolates.

I would always buy her a small "token" of my love towards her. Unfortunately after 18 yrs of marriage and my "Very" public fall from grace, ( being arrested in front of my three teens at gunpoint!). They seem insignificant ways to have shown her love and affection. After coming on here and reading others posts. Listening to others advice I now see that they were the most appropriate ways that I could and DID show my love to her. "I" let myself down by hiding emotions all those years and not letting others in to help me.

Basically small shows of affection, however simplistic can and do mean the world to a sufferer, you do not need to say "I Love You" out load. For me a tiny little touch or a simple phrase / gift suffices.

XX HUGS to an understanding supporter

 

[sthrngirl]

Thank you guys so much! It's def a work in progress. I feel that I have lots to look forward to.

 

[Reyne]

I've found a good attitude goes a long way across the board of PTSD challenges. And a good workout helps, too. My own mental health has to be a priority. God bless you all!