Relationships In General

[Jimmy1]

Hey guys, I had a really great conversation with Margaret the other evening and I worked a few things out.

I told her that sometimes it feels like nobody in the world understands me. It gets so frustrating.

She said that she does understand but if I was to record myself I would get a rude shock.
Apparently I get so worked up and frustrated that I constantly repeat myself. And the other masterful thing I know we are all guilty of is that we get so uncomfortable with our own minds that we make other people uncomfortable too by picking on the little things.
Have you ever noticed when you are having a bad day that everyone else is doing things wrong. They cut us off in traffic, they run into us in the mall, they play their music too loud.

Just waffling, but we are going to work out a signal to say that I need time out. That way it won't end up in me upsetting anyone.

Cheers, thanks for listening.

 

[james7119]

Awrite Jimmy.

You're spot on there. I have tried to explain to my partner the reason why some days I am really withdrawn etc and I've found it has helped a bit. When I had that conversation with her (in relationship councilling) i found out that whenever I shouted at her or ignored her, she always thought I was angry with her personally, where as in fact it was everything winding me up that day. Her sharing that with me, kinda opened a little door into her own suffering with my problems.
Today was such a bad day mate. I woke up, first thing I did was have a go at my 2 year old for jumping on the bed (which on a good day I'd join in with her), I then called someone on the TV a stupid bitch because she was bringing out a fitness DVD and doing a stretch wrong, which caused an argument with my Mrs. I decided I had to clean the entire flat, and scrubbed all the floors in the bathroom and kitchen, and each time I found a bit of my Mrs hair on the floor, it would wind me up more and more to the point where, when I had finished I went for a sleep to chill out. An tonight we have fallen out because I snapped at her when she caught me sitting in the toilet reading a book to get some space from her. I cant even sit in my toilet without her or my 2 year old looking for me after ten minutes. I dont want to go out for space, I want to sit on my arse, in my own home, and be left alone for a few hours. This is selfish I know and unfair, because I'm on leave, so they both want to spend as much time with me as they can. Maybe I need to meditate or something.
Tonight is another night without sleep, the meds I'm on dont seem to work for me anymore, so I'm back to the Whisky watching 24hour news, getting annoyed at people talking about things they havent got a clue about.

Just waffling lol!

Maybe we should work out a signal as well mate, then it will save me having to explain things all over again and upset her. I'm glad I joined here I've already learned something now.

Cheers mate.

 

[Jimmy1]

Your welcome to waffle all you like. Thats what the place is for. You can feel free to have a bitch.

With a signal, I just tell Margaret that the cows have got out of their paddock again. lmao.

Make sure your wife reads these mate.

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They might give her a bit more of an insight, and the more she understands the better it is for all.