Responses To Your Therapist That You Will Probably Never Say

[rainy_daze]

Me: Is your secretary incapable of listening? When I say "please change the appointment to a Friday, as I requested and discussed with the doctor", and instead she sends me an appointment for a Monday, can she not hear the words I'm saying? When she gets annoyed that I need to change the appointment again, do you think she is an appropriate member of staff to have on your team? Do you think you could communicate a bit more with your secretary, and pass on from me that I dislike her intensely? Do you think you could send her for some mental health sensitivity training? Do you think you could send her for some listening skills training? Do you mind if I just leave now? I'm disgusted at the way your service has treated me for these past few years.

^^I won't say this because it will just wait therapy time. It's wasting my time having to fix this appointment stuff though, and I'm frustrated not being listened to.

 

[Lucycat]

When you told me you were going away for 2 weeks, and you could see me before you went, but I declined, why didn't you KNOW that those 2 weeks would be too long?

 

[NothingLeft]

Can you please not call in sick on the weeks I'm already struggling. Thank you.

 

[zaniara]

I'm sorry I'm such a disappointment to you, and that I wasted your time.

 

[Hashi]

In those silences, are you planning what you are going to have for dinner while I'm living my hell?

When I had to leave my last therapist she said nice goodbye things at the final session. One of them was, "I've never felt bored with you". I was so shocked! A therapist sitting there bored? She shrugged and said, "Well I'm being honest - it happens sometimes". I think she meant being bored because a client isn't making any effort. I think that because I have to. The idea of a therapist being bored is too terrible.

How many people do you see, how do you see them, how do I compare? Am I like them? Am I very nuts

Oh, I think this. A lot more too. Do you sigh after I leave? Do you sigh when I'm about to arrive? Do you feel a professional obligation to keep seeing me but secretly wish I'd go away? What do you say about me to your supervisor?

 

[Hashi]

@zaniara, so sorry you're feeling this. I really doubt that your therapist thinks those things.

 

[Let It Be]

I guess I wasn't too surprised that I received an early birthday card from the counselor I used to see.

The card read: Thinking of you on this special day and asking the Lord to give you every good gift now and always.

She then wrote on the card: Have a wonderful day! I pray it will be one of peace and joy for you! Be good to yourself and have an ice-cream to celebrate you and how far you have come! Love you!

 

[maddog]

T: "I believe there is hope for you Maddog, and that you will make it through all of this."

Me: (thinks) "I truly wonder if there is a point at which you would stop saying this to me and would instead find a subtle but direct way to say that you think I'm past the point of being able to be helped. I actually need to believe that there is, because otherwise, I am scared that you're lying to me, and that you say this because you feel you have to. The one thing I fear more than you giving up on me is you lying to me when you already have.

Maddog

 

[zaniara]

I truly wonder if there is a point at which you would stop saying this to me and would instead find a subtle but direct way to say that you think I'm past the point of being able to be helped.

Oh.. I can relate so much to what you wrote!!

I actually think that as long as there is life there is hope.. For everyone. (Not including psychopaths though!) I guess that therapists are convinced of that, otherwise they wouldn't be able to do their job. - But I also think as long as we are honest at the best of our ability, there is always hope. I have to believe that. But I have trouble believing it about my self sometimes though.. Those times I tend to think that either my therapist is lying to me, or that I have deceived him somehow, or that he will surely change his mind eventually.. :rolleyes: (Sorry if this came across as very confused: I am right now and in a very bad place too, so it's hard to find the words.. was just so moved by what you wrote.)

I think she meant being bored because a client isn't making any effort. I think that because I have to. The idea of a therapist being bored is too terrible.

I think so too. That they get bored only when someone is lying/not trying hard enough. Because that must be pretty common( since not all people are prepared/dare to change despite being in therapy, for example my mother was in therapy for years, and was hardly honest about much at all) and pretty frustrating..

 

[zaniara]

(We're not on speaking-terms right now- after last weeks f*ck up from his side and my meltdown. Won't be until next week. I'm not angry, just f*cked up.) :

I know you will charm me right out of it all in no-time, because you're so good at that and I'm so weak. But I don't trust you right now, and you can't just charm me out of that.

Btw, I like you too much, so you have to go. Things always f*cks up when I like somebody this much. Besides, needing someone this much is not good. It's not you, it's me. I just need to get a grip!

 

[ninja]

Why haven't you run away yet?

 

[DMerish]

Any addictions?
"No, not anymore. Getting over my addition to the Hokey Pokey was hard but I turned myself around". :laugh: