Safe touch questions

[raincloud79]

Hi everyone I am new to the group and have a question about safe touch in relationships. Those of you in long term loving relationships do you notice your needs changing for how much you need? Are you triggered by too much sexual touch even if it loving? How do you manage that? Have you been able to talk to your partner without them feeling awful about just being loving? I am in a difficult place with this right now and am hoping for a way to talk to my husband in a way that makes sense and doesn't seem so emotional. Thank you for any input.

 

[CoffeeCat]

Hi everyone I am new to the group and have a question about safe touch in relationships. Those of...

Hi there! Sorry you're going through a tough time. Unfortunately I am in no place to answer that, I was hoping to get an answer to this as well. I'm currently seeing someone and we've been getting on nicely, but I know he's noticed I'm not exactly cuddly. How do you introduce the idea of safe touch to someone you're interested in? Emotional discussions are a bit of a trigger for me so being able to discuss it without evoking a huge amount negative emotions would be amazing.

HUGS!

 

[raincloud79]

Thanks for your comment. Yeah, it is really hard lately I notice I am also triggered by people in my family. I never knew exactly what the feeling was but somehow it is associated with people touching me because they think they are entitled too.

For me and my husband, who have been married 14 years it has been a loonnng process that has happened over time.