General Same Old Thing - Hubby Going Backward Again

[Deleted member 93]

Midnight wandering is just PTSD, may be meds for him but for many it is just us. One of our perks ;)

Grilling well, that is because it is not cooking, that is playing. But when it was mentioned to loan the little one I have to admit that does wonders too! When mine is home I am on top of everything (almost any way as we will not mention I left the egg beaters plugged in after mixing the cake with the hair trigger and a little one's tongue all over them, but I caught it in time!)

It all sums up to ease. Chips and nuts are bite size, apples you have to bite. Yes, during a crash it is that elementary.

 

[Jen]

It all sums up to ease. Chips and nuts are bite size, apples you have to bite. Yes, during a crash it is that elementary.

Veiled thank you for opening my eyes up to try and understand what is going throught the head of a sufferer it does seem elementary to a non sufferer but it makes it easier to understand.
Kathy yeh I often wondered if we should just light up the barby a bit more often you dont see many women cooking on them do you?:think:
As far as the midnight wanders go I used to worry a lot that he would wander of outside the house and get lost or hit by a car or something? But it just seems to be in the confines of the house?
Jen

 

[Kathy]

Midnight wandering is just PTSD, may be meds for him but for many it is just us. One of our perks ;)

That is good to know Veiled, thank you for sharing. With Evie's recent brain issues we are never quite certain what is PTSD and what is something else, it can be rather confusing.

Jen I have never known Evie to leave the house. She is simply up doing things much as she would be during the day. I don't believe it's the same as say, someone with dementia wandering off. Quite a different matter entirely. I have experienced both as Jim's mother suffered from dementia.

If you have nice weather then perhaps yes Jen you should light up the barbeque more often! Jim will cook anything as long as it's on the barbeque - meat, vegetables, desserts and so on. Yet he says he cannot cook? :rolleyes: Perhaps I should invest in a new indoor grill as well!

 

[Jen]

Hi Kathy maybe they dont leave the house as in their subconscious they are in their comfort zone in the house?
Hubby has been not well again this week we had a talk last night couple of months ago we spoke of moving out of this house.
Out of town on to a bit of acreage but last night as he was feeling better I said maybe we should hold of moving as when he crashes I dont want to be stuck with the higher maintenance of a larger block as he doesnt do anything when he is sick. He agreed that we should probably stay put for a while!
You never know whats around the corner hey?

 

[Kathy]

Well Jen I live on an acreage and it is lovely however I would not suggest it if he is not willing or able to do much outside work, as there is much work involved! Jim and I do equal amounts and we enlist the help of the children as well.

 

[becvan]

Oh ugh, moving. Yes moving really messes you up for quite some time! It took me around a month to get settled in here and used to the new sounds and neighbors. I also agree with Kathy that if he's having trouble getting out and doing things now, moving to the country is only going to make it worse. (I am a country girl.. lol)

I moved to this townhouse and all of the outside stuff is taken care of here. I know it's made my life much easier. I only have to worry about inside now and it's removed a lot of the stress.

My two cents anyways!

bec

 

[Jen]

Thanks Bec and Kathy yeh I have to be realistic I suppose it was more my dream than his but after sitting back and thinking about it not a good idea at this time.
Yep I am disappointed but that is the way it is?

 

[Kathy]

Oh that is unfortunate Jen, sorry you are disappointed. I am being very honest however when I say it is a tremendous amount of work. If you were going to move you really would need your husband's help. Perhaps you can think of something else to ease your disappointment, such as visiting the country for holidays more often?

 

[Kathy]

How is your husband doing now Jen? Any better? I thought of you as last night Evie had a huge "pig out" on McDonalds burgers and chicken nuggets and was quite ill all night as a result.

 

[Jen]

Hi Kathy thanks for asking poor Evie I reckon if I had a pig out on Maccas I would be sick to!
He is still not great I am just taking it easy with him whats the point of lecturing him when I see him sit down and eat so much sugary cakes yesterday?
He knows he shouldnt because of his diabeties! If I hear him say one more time he is going to start exercising and nothing is happening I will scream!

 

[jods]

Hi Jen
What is it they say, you can't teach an old dog new tricks:wink:
How are you going with your health? Hope you are doing well.
Take care

 

[Jen]

Hi jods I am doing ok I am back at work still not golfing will start in January. Its to hot now anyway!
How are things with you?