Selective texting?

[Jay02]

yep. If I don't understand my own emotions I sure as hell can't explain them to hubby. Friends are more forgiving because they aren't as vested in the relationship. They will let me just say "ya, I'm find" even when they know I'm lying my ass off. Spouses want to help fix things -- and some things can't be fixed. They just have to run their course

Yep. big no no :)
Can you start thinking now what you will do the next time around? And oh ya - there will be a next time. There is ALWAYS a next time. It's just part of the fun filled journey that is ptsd Sometimes you get lucky with a sufferer who doesn't isolate, but usually stress = hide. It's really, really important you understand that it's not about you. Otherwise it's going to make you nuts.

Yeah, every time he isolates, I am always trying to find ways to better myself for the next time this happens because I know there will always be a next time. I’m way better with dealing with it than when we first got together, but that doesn’t make it hurt any less.

 

[Freida]

but that doesn’t make it hurt any less.

This is the part I didn't get until I came here and started reading the supporters side. I was totally shocked. Seriously. I guess I thought that isolating was beneficial to my supporters - not harmful. Finding out it was hurtful was.... tough.

 

[Jay02]

This is the part I didn't get until I came here and started reading the supporters side. I was totally shocked. Seriously. I guess I thought that isolating was beneficial to my supporters - not harmful. Finding out it was hurtful was.... tough.

There’s a part of me that hurts when my boyfriend isolates, but there’s also a part of me... The part that knocks some ‘sense’ into me when I realize that it’s something that’s out of his control.

My boyfriend, you, and other sufferers out there have it tougher and I wish that I could just take it all away because it hurts not only because of the isolation, but because I see the pain and hurt he has to go through.

A little update though... He sent me a few gifs last night and it wasn’t much, but to me, it meant everything. He’ll come back to me; he always does. Just gotta be patient.

To you and the other sufferers out there... You are all so strong and brave and just... Absolutely amazing in your own way. Keep on keeping on.

 

[Freida]

:hug: so happy he's back!

 

[Jay02]

:hug: so happy he's back!

Little by little, but he's getting there. Thank you so much!!!

 

[Never_falter2]

Little by little, but he's getting there. Thank you so much!!!

??? I think he just needed some time.