Relationship Sex With Ptsd Combat Vet (warning: Somewhat Explicit!)

[Seagreen]

What you described doesn't sound that unusual to me at all. I tend to get flighty during sex and spend the whole time trying to ground myself or dissociating. All senses are heightened and I find it is extremely irritating and difficult to cope with. This sounds a bit like what your guy described when he said it almost feels too tight. I have never orgasmed with a partner and I'm not sure I could even get to that stage even if I wanted to. I want to dull sensations not increase them. For me it probably is about staying in control. But I still get enjoyment from the closeness of being together. There is also medications and medical related causes to consider. Maybe he just wanted to hold out so it would last longer and be more special. I wouldn't take it personally. If he wasnt attracted to you he wouldn't have been there engaging in hours of sex with you.

 

[Friday]

Whiskey-Dick is pretty common (especially on certain meds &/or the alcohol from which it gets it's name). The opposite of normally thought of ED. Also known as 'Porn Star Effect', Viagra-Gone-Horribly-Wrong, etc.

Can't say I've ever heard coming described as gross, before, though. Although if there's a wet spot, most men will rather sleep outside in the snow with packs of wild dogs harassing them, than on it. One of the nice things about condoms. No wet spot. Although, if he's got a mild latex allergy, the moisture/friction/contact can cause localized inflammation (urethra swells shut in some cases) which can make orgasm (and peeing) difficult and painful. Lifestyle Skyn is the best latex-free condom I've ever found. Super super thin, great body heat transfer / sensation, same STI & pregnancy protection as latex. Without the burning! I'm the one with the latex allergy. Took years to figure out, cause it's mild.

3 showers a day sounds pretty normal to me. One to wake up, one after PT, and one before bed to clean off the day. A 4th if I'm going out (on a date, or close quarters of any kind).

I'm in PTSD land if I'm showering hourly, or every couple hours / using it as a grounding tool. Gone weeks without showers for work (shudder, and burned my lingerie afterward), but while I enjoy getting sweaty/dirty... I like cleaning up afterward. I'm usually pretty active, so that means at least a couple or three a day. They only take something like 2 minutes if everything is normal (PTSD showers can drain the durn tank).

 

[Ablack835]

Thank you all for the feedback!
@Justmehere, you pretty much hit the nail on the head. The day after our night together everything was fine and then the following day he pushed me away again, although the lines of communication have stayed pretty open this time. It's been the worst and most hurtful one yet. I do think that it may feel this way because I feel like the vulnerable one now and in the past with other men I have used sex as a tool to keep or create distance instead of becoming closer. It almost feels like he's trying to use my new found vulnerability to get us on an even playing field, but I know I can't read his mind.