South Jersey

[oFant0mo]

REPRESENT.. just kidding. Nah Im wondering if anyone is in the area. Im looking for someone to talk to once in awhile... but more looking to see if there is someone in the area that could maybe become a friend to my girlfriend. Basically.. who knows maybe we will "randomly" run in to each other at a bar or a resturant or something and then whamo perfect friendship chemical reaction. But I mean either is cool.. it would be nice to have someone to ask questions and maybe talk to... and if I could find someone that I could introduce to my girlfriend.. it would be awesome!!

 

[LikeCharlotte]

I am trying to reach out although I am not sure I want to meet anyone right now I would be up to talking and trying to help.

 

[oFant0mo]

Ok thats fine. Just message me on here.. and we can talk. I appreciate it.

 

[developmental]

Same deal here... except I just joined today, sooooo, not sure if I'm up for this yet. I'm feelin the plan though. You're a good boyfriend :) my fiancé thinks it's great. What are you guys into?

 

[oFant0mo]

HAH Careful with that whole "good boyfriend" title.. I might have my moments but Im the one with the better end of the deal here. :)

Paintball
Movies
Video Games
Casual Outings
things of that nature

 

[developmental]

Awesome! we've never done paint-ball but I'm pretty sure (as long as it's not from combat) paint-ball is pretty therapeutic. can I bring cardboard cutouts of my parents LOL?

We're also super into video games/movies, even have a projector set up. game selection's pretty decent (Wii and PS3) and we have about 300 movies. over the summer, we went to Great Adventure almost daily - really helped to be around people and since roller coasters are such a great equaliser, there was no threat. since it closed, we haven't been out too much.

Fiancé was laid off recently so things are kinda tight financially, but we find ways to entertain ourselves. even a drive a nice day can feel good.

I'm getting close to "reaching out" :) Thanksgiving was tough (been flashbacky), but we made it and I'm feeling' pretty dern good about that. maybe within the next few weeks, we could all bump into each other? malls can be insane in December (I usually get bugged-out and shop on-line/day before), but I'm sure we can figure something out. actually, that's all the more reason to go! (still figuring all this out...).

We'll take it slow and be in touch and when the time is right, everyone'll know:) thanks for being patient!

 

[Kintsugi]

Hi oFant0mo, I don't live in NJ right now, but I grew up in Central Jersey and would be happy to talk to you or try to provide a perspective on your questions. I'm new to the forum, and it's encouraging to know that there are partners like you trying to reach out and better understand your loved one. I am too nervous at this point to even tell my fiance that I found this forum. I think he will think I'm being broody and impersonal, flagrant, something like that, but this site has already been helping me learn skills that I have already applied!